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Haven't talked to my friend in almost two months!
Well I (female,26) haven't talked to my friend (male, 28) in over a month almost two and we usually text at least once a week if not more. I've texted him a few times and even asked if everything was alright but no response. I want to make sure he's not mad at me or something but he isn't replying to the texts or Facebook when I wrote him on there (it told me that he was last on like 10 minutes before I wrote him but now it won't say which also seems kinda weird) and I haven't tried calling him yet and that's the only ways I know to get a hold of him (he lives in another state) besides texting his wife whose number he gave me ( I am also married we've been friends since high school) but I don't know if that would be weird and annoying or something. I just don't want the reason he isn't talking to me to be that he's mad at me because there's no reason he should be. So how do I find out what's going on so that if there was a misunderstanding or something I can clear it up?
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Hon, you don't know if he is having phone trouble and just doesnt know it yet, unable to receive calls, or broke it...lost it and depending on whether he had insurance on it or not, he may not be able to replace it instantly and is saving up to replace it.
Being mad at you for no reason is very very unlikely and of course makes no sense.
Perhaps there is something big going on in the lives of him and wife and extended family. Perhaps a family member is ill or in hospital. Perhaps they have had some unexpected expenses arise, a loss of job, things that he really isnt prepared to share with a friend as there is nothing you can do to change whatever it is. When a persons mind is consumed to focusing on their prblems or issues, they will not feel like chatting with friends. Maybe he doesnt realize that all you need to hear is, "Have problems not ready to chat. Dont call me, I'll call you" but not all people tend to think of how the other person takes their silence.
Just pray if you're a praying person that all is alright and give him time to get back to you. I doon't know how often you kept in touch before close friends who live in other states and are married dont tend to keep in touch weekly and rarely have I heard of those who keep in touch monthly. I have a friend from childhood whom I chat with now twice a year. We are busy with our own lives, children and grandchildren, jobs, and family and few find time to keep in touch often. Sometimes for some peoople, if their mate is the right sort of person, the needs they used to go to a friend for now are taken care of by a mate, those emotional needs, need to lean on someone, bounce ideas off of someone, that sort of thing.
I can't say what would be considered too much contact on your part so that he or the wife begin to feel exasperated by that. Only you know them well enough. So if its all because you want peace of mind, you likely aren't going to get it. Send a nice card. Thinking of you kind of card. And let him know that if he doesnt feel a need to keep in touch as often as you have in past to just let you know how often would be comfortable with him, as currently you are concerned since you haven't heard anything at all and are worried something is wrong. Thats all you need to do. No response at all still, then don't keep trying, let it go and know it wasn't you because he had his chance to let you know what is up and if he chooses to not communicate, then he is the one causing this non communication, his choice to pull away from you as a friend. This is something a friend would not do to a friend. So he may be really mixed up in his head to act that way and you can not change it. Just pray for him, send a card and leave it at that.
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