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He dosent love me
I really like a boy but i dont know if i should ask him out because my parents said no dating till im 16 but im 12!!
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Briellen is right, the best thing is to become friends first. I just answered another question posted by a 12 yr old girl so this may be you again. If so, I can see how important it is to you, this desire to experience having a guy like you.
Please realize at 12 also, this boy, will have no idea if he loves you. Love or puppy love at this stage is not the kind of love that will sustain a long term relationship in the future like life long, marriage license or not.
He might know if he has an interest in you, as in liking you, just as you have girlfriends who like you. As I explained in the other question,
at your age, the romance part of a relationship can wait for until you are older, had a chance to mature more and have learned how to become a close friend first with a guy. You know your girlfriends moods, right. Can recognize if somethings bothering one? Well, guys can be a bit different, hiding their emotions, or they tackle issues differently and so their reasoning and actions they take are so foreign to you, you need to first learn all the inner workings of a guys mind in order to learn how to become a good friend and get along with as little misunderstandings as possible. The romance and kissing part will only distract and that realm is hard enough for some adults to handle well dear, because for the same reason I am telling you what to do, they never learned how to befriend and get to really know and understand the person first, just skipped over that and went straight to dating and sex. You may not even have sex in mind quite yet but just want the cuddling, hand holding and kissing. That already is too much a distraction to learning how to understand a guy and becoming his friend.
So do not tell the parents that you have a boyfriend. the two words boy and friend put together in such a way mean a totally different thing and they are going to say no because boyfriend equates to 'dating partner'. And yes, as a parent myself, it is too young to date, but not too young to start learning how to be a good friend with a guy you like and who likes you. So you ask the parents to allow you to have a friend come over to visit, then mention the friend is a guy and give the name. You let them know you understand they say you cant date until 15-16, but until then, you want to learn how to understand boys (other than brothers if you have any) better cus you know they are hard to understand sometimes. Have a good adult conversation about this and for any no you get, ask they to explain why. If they reasoning is due to not having enough information, then explain better the context under which you'd like to have him over as a friend, like only when they are there to watch over you, etc... you get the picture I hope. So clear this with the parents first. You will likely during your teen years come up with several different guys you like. If they are okay with you inviting a friend who is male, over, then ask the guy if he'd like to 'hang out with you as a friend' instead of asking him out on a date. A date to adults means two people going out together alone without parents or friends along, to dinner, dancing, a movie, a picnic and usually involves driving themselves over to these date spots. Just being seen together alot at school does not constitute dating. You are seen alot with your girlfriends too and you aren't dating all of them, right? I hope the point is made, right now friendship should be what you seek with him, more than just being passsing friendly with each other at school but actually spending time together away from school and the safest place to do it is at Home where Mom can observe and give you pointers when you have trouble understanding your male friend.
Good luck dear.
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sweetie you dont need a boyfriend when your 12. im not much older than you and i regret dating boys back then because it makes your relationships when your older awkward i understand if you like him but you dont need to go out with him just become closer as friends and try to talk to him. boys are stupid. they never mature. dont get your heart broken. i know this seems stupid but trust me i was like you and i regret it. be a kid. have fun. dont worry about boys. in the future he wont even matter
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