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Why do I have so much trouble accepting a positive truth?
First off, let me sat that I have OCD and perhaps that's an issue here.
The situation is one that can apply to anyone but in my case, let's just say I learned/discovered the truth of a matter recently and even though it was a relief and should set me free from fear and anxiety, I still have a hard time accepting it fully. I still question and doubt even though I know it in my heart.
Why is it that this doubt and questioning persists and is there a way to just let go and accept what should be a wonderful truth?
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I Don't know if you have a past of negative experiences that would cause you to not want to accept a proven positive truth, but thats what does affect a lot of people even without OCD or anxiety disorders or anything else of the like.
Humans don't like to get their hopes up in case something that looks good on all sides has that one little rotten apple at the bottom of a bushel that affects all the rest and that house of cards comes tumbling down. As for imagining worst case scenerios, this is something most people do foremost before imagining good outcomes and may be in part why we tend to not want to accept when we have something positive and good.
Life is full of hurts and there is no way to avoid these except to hide away from society and never leave home, ever. It is inevitable that we will be hurt at some point. Thing is, our subconscious mind, where all our emotions eminate from, is very concerned with your utmost well-being and want to protect you from hurt, dissapointments, sadness, fear, all that negative stuff and I suspect because of that is a part of why you may struggle accepting positive truth. It takes some serious retraining of our subconscious mind to work in tandem with our conscious mind, and not inadvertantly against it. But that isn't easy for the average person to do alone. If one went hunting for a counselor who understands the effect of ones subconscious on their wakeful time behavior, that person may be able to help, but though its common knowledge to people who've studied psychology, few, I've found, approach helping a person from that angle.
What you can do, something that helps is to pay attention to how often and how long your mind dwells on a negative thought. the moment you become aware of one, learn to stop for a sec and talk internally or aloud to yourself, essentially talking to your subconscious, and tell it, "You basically have no proof that this will have a bad outcome. Past experiences isn't proof that it will happen again, those were different situations, maybe similar but totally different. I want to learn how to develop trust in this, So kindly stop thinking negative stuff and worrying about something that may never happen.
In case you are experiencing a particular scenerio that repeatedly comes up way too often that it is noticeable, May I suggest that as a soul, it is one of the things they need to learn in life how to handle. Running away without learning ones lesson, means that the same bad scenerio will continue to crop up in life until that lesson is learned. I had one to learn. An abusive ex wasn't enough for me to learn to leave him. ...so a couple of abusive friends were tossed in along the line. After I finally left, the first boyfriend that came my way seemed nice but in no time I saw the same destructive behavior in him and was sharing a place with him. To stand up to him meant I would lose my place to live. that is scary.... but I was being tested so that I personally would know I was strong enough and cared about myself enough to not compromise for a type of security and I said I would not tolerate that. He left and I couldnt find a roommate to share cost and lost the place. However, good point to it all, I knew I was strong and ready to move on with a good man. I found that man only two months later and no longer experience any challenges of that sort in life. Sorry this is long but i had to add that in case that is whats happening with you.
Lastly, trust in our good situation takes some time to develop so dont feel bad if you dont feel it at first. Also there are some personality types and sun sign people who have a naturally suspicious nature and have to dig deeper than most might to be assured there are no rotten apples at the bottom of the barrel. I am one like that. And it is healthier to ease your mind and double check things the best you can so you can then choose to relax and enjoy. You just tend to go overboard perhaps with that and at that point need to tell yourself to relax. I do not know if you require any medication for OCD, but if needed, don't stop as you use little tricks to help you here. I wish you the best and hope you find this encouraging. But, be forewarned, it is not easy at all to retrain ones thoughts and habits. If you have a counselor, get to the point with them on what you want to work on, accepting a positive truth rather than continuing on fearing the worst will still happen and if you choose to try what i mentioned, let them know how you are doing with that and want to know what else you can try. If its a good counselor, they'll know you really want to work on this and hopefully give you more things to try because too often they take the slow route to helping someone as most are reluctant or even unwilling to do the work they need to do to improve in areas.
good luck
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