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How to tell if a guy is interested
How do you know when a guy likes you ? I'm sick and tired of guys asking me out to dinner but then I later see them hanging out with other girls ...
I just can't read guys, they're just so vague and complicated
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If a guy likes you, he would make it obvious that he is interested by verbally clarifying it. In the meantime i know girls can be completely different in the way they show clear signs that they are interested which is why it can be so hard to communicate such things. Boys who play games are a different scenario but in simpler words if a guy likes you and is interested in you, trust me he would make it happen. Also, don't wait around for boys who don't know what they want, if you are interested in someone just be out there and tell them ! at least you know you tried, and there is no shame in it. Guys can be so hard to read!! good luck with everything x
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Depends on how well the guy really knew you before asking you out. ANd then theres a lot more to consider.
tell me the answer to this, if you decided to ask a hot looking guy you see often but don't really know anything about to go out to dinner and he accepted. Would you feel obligated to continue dating them if you discovered in that first date or subsequent dates that there was something about him that turned you off or you found something that would grate on you after a while? I don't think you'd feel you wanted to have to continue dating. Thats what dating is about, at least the initial level after first an attraction by looks and how a person carries themselves.
Dating at first level is information gathering stage. Yes, some guys who are players take advantage of this. But there can be sincere guys like you trying to find a girl who is just right for him. Initial attraction is a wonderful feeling but may not reveal whether there is real chemistry. It may take spending time with a person, hanging out or officially being asked on a date rather than to hang out with is Exactly the same thing, its to get to know the person better. I dated after a divorce and can say that at first date, I already knew I wasnt interested and never saw the guy again and there were way more of those dates than the ones where I dated a short while until I found my 2nd husband. So was I a player, leading guys on by setting a coffe or dinner date to get to know them better after only having seen their dating profile pic and talked on phone? It has to go both ways girl. If by the standards of a one time date and never returning, then in your eyes I'd be a player.
Now its entirely different but not necessarily bad yet if he hasn't promised you anything because he is still searching, keeping his options open. I did the same thing. If 3 guys at same time were interested and looked like a good prospect, I didn't want to lose them by saying, Well wait until I go out with 2 other guys first to see if I like any of them. this process of checking out several different people at the same time is perfectly normal IF no emotional attachments have had time to form and if they have, thats the point at which you decide on the one you have feelings with, make a commitment to date only them and become official and stop looking at others. The problem is that many people who use this method of dating to find the right one, don't tell the person accepting a date as to what they are doing. Giving them a chance to still go out but not have their hopes up. So my suggestion for you, is that the next time a guy asks you out, instead of getting your own hopes out, find out where's he's at. Is he dating to find the love of his life to commit to or just dating for fun as a social experience. Cut out the ones who are not serious or ready to commit IF they discover you to be their perfect mate.
If you aren't ready to commit to a long term or life long relationship your self then its not fair to expect such action from the guy. I say life long in case you're still in school and just starting to date. Long term in that case would be a year or more.
What do you think is the first thing a guy sees about a girl that makes him want to date her. Is it her looks, or her personality and character, who she is inside.
Every red blooded male who is heterosexual is going to first be attracted to her looks. In most cases, he will know nothing or very little of who you are beyond the looks. So if a guy approaches, it is a given he is asking you out only based for the moment on looks. For one moment try to picture a guy asking out a girl he finds hideous? Not happening. Some guys stop at that point cus looks is all they need to get it up and have sex. They'll do the romancing and say all the things they think she wants to hear if the sex is good and they want more. But it doesn't mean he wants a true real committed relationship or meant anything he said or did.
Then there's the guy who is looking for a life long mate, not a driving desire to but very open to going that way if he finds the right one. You better hope your looks are something he can live with day in day out without ever getting tired of them even when your body changes due to children or you change as you grow much older. But that isnt enough, is it dear.
You want a man who is not only the best lover and romantic partner but also your best friend, that emotional support, the person who can read and see your needs before you even say so, they encourage you and all your pursuits, allow you to be your own self without trying to change you, etc...all the stuff a best friend is. The best friend part will only come if there is enough in common and love begins to grow. You love your girlfriends, in a different way of course, don't you. Well thats one kind of love needed in a relationship between you and a guy, the other romantic love.
My guess, you are waiting for a guy to take interest in you. Don't you have an idea of what you really need and want in a guy or will any who find you attractive do? If you have no criteria for a guy to meet, you may have a lot of unhappy relationships that break up. You need to date only long enough to discover if He meets Your Criteria for a life long partner and if he doesn't, You break up with Him. That is how it is best done. there are less men than women in the world. So if you want a mate in the end, be proactive, you do the asking out. But you better have a clue first what you are comparing him to and there better be a list of what you are looking for. Just a tidbit to help you start that list, it needs important things like, does he loves kids and want them some day. Saying he does isn't good enough, watch him with nieces or nephews or around other kids and see how he acts. How about differenc of religious beliefs if any. If one is Christian and the other not, will one be trying to convert their partner when the other doesnt want that. Is the person perfectly at peace with you believing what you do without thinking it a wrong path? these are but a few things that can break up a relationship. Be diliget and very in depth and picky in your listing of things and you will update it as you have experience, finding things to take off but much more specifics to add. It takes time dear but will be worth it in the end. good luck.
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Doesnt that just suck? Guys can be fickle,tsk tsk tsk
Before you agree to a date,maybe try to see if they are willing to get to know you as a friend first,before they try any moves on you!
Its not right that they are some men who play the field,and people should never be treated that way
Next time wait on a dude to see if he is sincere enough to date a person like you!
Much love
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