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did my ex get over me
I broke up with my boyfriend on friday because im dealing with stuff in my life soo on monday my ex looked happy and stuff and later on when i went home my friend grabbed my phone and texted him saying i want to get back together and tht i regret breaking up with him and i told him tht that was my friend who sended that soo the next day he looked sad and depressed and wasint talking to no one at all so then my friend gabby told me he looked like he was crying also whenever i passed by him he would stare or look at me soo later on we were in pe my friend told me to talk to him soo she called him up and thats when she both sat us down i told him tht i been dealing with stuff and tht the reason tht i told him was not tht reason and also i told him i dont want him worrying about me soo thats when he said areint boyfriends suppose to worry and also he was saying how he recieved a text and thts when i told him tht wasint me and tht when he said ok but even if it was u i would have said no and i moved on already And he said that i told him he wasint a good boyfriend and tht he also said why waste his
time agian for a second time and how in the first place i shouldint have done it but i was confused and now i want him back do i really move on?
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Yup, i agree with dragonfly here, First off your in school still and a bulk of time thats not used for study is also testing the waters of what relationships are right now. Theres a huge chance that neither of you really know what you want and by "dating" your figuring out slowly what you DO want in a mate over time.
He may just be really upset and your friend noticed and is trying to help you guys work things out which is sweet of her but thats not always the best answer. Maybe though your boyfriend is OK with worrying about you. If he wants to do that then let him. Thats not really a reason to brake up with someone. Maybe just being able to be with you even if he does worry is enough for him. He sounds very kind in that case and like maybe it would be worth working through with him.
i dont think your friend should have messaged him though that was crossing a boundary because it fooled him into thinking things could be ok again.
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I couldn't possibly know what he is thinking. But if he said he's moved on, it means either he's really hurt and wants to make you hurt now too...retaliation mode which people tend to do when young and inexperienced yet OR he meant those words, and he really is feeling over the relationship with you. For the future, here's some advice you didn't think to ask for.
Something you may want to reconsider in how you deal with people when relating to them in conversation or social settings is:
1. to watch carefully what you say,
2. do not be hasty to share what you're thinking OR feeling at any given moment for it may change as it's common to do when young and in school.
3. remember that words can hurt and cause damage to relationships or potential ones. Once said, even if you say you didn't mean it and they forgive, they'll still not forget hearing them and that's enough to not trust you or associate with u.
4. honor a person's wishes when they state it and don't try to change their mind
5. go more with your own gut feeling than what treasured friends say. People can mean well, but their actions and suggestions will always come with their point of view which may not always be the best for you in dealing with others.
6. don't listen to here-say, rumours, and other info. and believe them to be the truth until you have checked for yourself and found it to be true or not.
7. use kind words when speaking to others. If it hurts to have someone degrade you openly, it does the same thing to them.
8. if needing to discuss something you have an issue with in another person, compliment them first on things you truly can compliment them on and then when sharing on the issue....own the problem. This means you don't accuse a person of making you feel a certain way. You are the one choosing to react a certain way to someone, even if with good cause. But in problem solving, you can do better by saying "When you do (blank) it makes me feel neglected" rather than "I feel neglected and it's your fault because...." Maybe you don't see the difference but imagine your girlfriend saying those two to you, which would you prefer.
Good luck!
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