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names for another parent
Im looking for suggestions on what to call someone special. I have my birth mother, we have always had a rocky relationship. I have another mother figure in my life whom I adore. I'm very close with her. I need a special name for her as I don't feel calling her by her first name is appropriate, but calling her mom doesn't do it for me. She is like a mom. But more special than that. Any suggestions on a special name to call her?
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God mother is another special name that you could call her actually because the def. of a god mother IS to be your mother incase your real mom cant!
so shes technically your god mother. or as my godmother called herself my "fairy godmother" ; )
it wouldnt be wrong to still call her by her first name and on paperwork you could legally write her in as your godmother and it would be taken seriously.
You should ask her though what she'd like you to call her. Maybe ask her if its ok with her to be your godmother since from what you described your situation is with your real mom, thats what she legally would be if you had to chose someone else to make choices for you in the event that something should happen to you and you could not do it yourself.
i call mine by hers and from other people i know that have a godmother they also call theirs by their first name as well because no matter what happens you still only have ONE real mom, and normally people feel that your real mother can never be truely replaced and take that title from her. (even if she is bat crazy and you dont even talk) lol. ; )
good luck though and have a talk with her and ask her what she would want to be called.
; )
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There is no higher calling than Mom unless you want to look at revered people like a princess or Queen, maybe Angel, or God but in this case Goddess.
There is such a thing as people having a parent figure in their life who is adopted by heart, as family to them. Not raised by or birth parent. Goes same if person is sibling age or such.
I have a gal whom I call by her first name half the time, and the other half I call her sis.
If Mom feels uncomfortable or inappropriate to you, may I suggest it might feel less awkward once it becomes a habit. I did so with my mother in law. So many call their by their first name as my ex did with my parents. I chose to call his Mom and Dad as a way to honor them for that status and within months it felt normal and I couldn't even dream of using their first names. Calling her mom I would say didn't do anything for me either at least in the beginning, but it sure did something for her. She had all boys and the others never married, so I was her only daughter of sorts.
I would suggest having this talk with the lady in question, letting her know how special she is to you and how you see her as a mother figure to you and care about her that way. You can't bring yourself to call her by her first name as in your case it feels inappropriate and you want to honor her for who she is to you. What would she feel if you were to call her Mom or another version of it.
Other choices are Mommy, Mother, Ma, Mama, Mum, Mumsy or any other such thing you can come up with. or a nickname based on something of her character. Maybe she's so sweet a personality you tell her you're thinking of calling her Angel. If she has a particular cultural origin, Japanese, French, German, use that work for Mom or Mother. Mine background is German, that word is Mutti, Mut said like Put and ti like tea. Just this convo with her will bestow the honor on her and touch her heart. You may want kleenex handy in case she cries.
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