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What to do when your crush hates you?
Last summer I told my crush that I liked him. He was like oh cool and he still talks to me back then and we chatted daily. Until the school started. We wouldn't talk in real life and its awkward, but we will still message each other after school. That made me really happy because he didnt ignored me after i confessed. So my friends also know i have a crush on him, and if my crush and i passed by tgt, my friends would make noise and he told me he doesnt like it. so one day he got really mad at me becuz my friends "teased us" but i got pissed and ignored him. soon i found he unfriended my through fb so i blocked him. i still think i like him but i dont want to what should i do? i cant even talk to him rn...
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Ok, heres MY idea and i dont know if your brave enough but ill make the assumption you just might be.
What i would do (because i did this as a teen) is i would tell my friends that i DO like him and i dont care what anyone thinks and that if they are my friend they will stop acting all immature and "get a grip". ((let me just throw in here that i was a very strong willed, people person and wasnt afraid to stand up for myself when i was a teen))
I dont know your personality obviously but you "could" shame them into not making fun of you like THAT. Take the high road, and they might just respect you more if you stand up for yourself and put your real feelings out there. No one says you have to do this with everyone else, just your close friends that were doing this so that they can see that you will NOT be disrespected when it comes to your feelings and "how would you like if i did that to you over a guy?!" type of attitude towards it with them.
Theres probably guys they like too, theyve just been too shy to say anything to any of the other girls including you. Their still in "im gonna follow what everyone else is doing and saying" mode and not in the "im going to think and feel and act for myself" mode yet and you ARE because your more mature and theres nothing wrong with that.
Now, with the guy in question. All you can do now is try to be nice to him, do not put yourself in a position where your friends or his can continue to tease, and i would try to message him in whatever way you wanna do that privately and say, im sorry about my friends their just immature and jealous most likely and if you dont wanna talk anymore thats ok and i will respect that but i would still like to at least just be friends because i dont want this petty little thing to end such a good thing.
call it "a thing" too. dont put a label on it right now because he might not be totally sure of how he wants to view the relationship and you might scare him off.
If he decides to talk to you again (but privately) maybe let him know that you dont care what anyone thinks of you or him and he shouldnt either.
hope that can help, idont know, thats just how i would do it i cant say that this will work out for you or not but ive done it before in the past. Other teens usually will respect you more if you hold steadfast to your feelings about something and your verbal about not letting anyone change your mind because their still figuring out who THEY ARE as people and its easier to be a follower then a leader and youll look like a leader if you try this way.
good luck! ; )
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I am guessing you're young teens as it is pretty embarassing for most teens to be teased about liking each other.
It wouldn't matter if it was your friends doing the teasing or his buddies, some guys just don't like, in fact they get pretty uncomfortable and then pissed about it. The young adult solution to such an issue is to avoid whomever it is that they like and hope the teasing dies down and its all forgotton. Basically, he can't handle the peer pressure or more to the point, has a great fear of what others think about him...cant handle the attention focused on him. I assured you when he grows up, as an adult it won't bother him as much. I understand, I was a teen once and yes, we all struggle with being too self conscious.
He reacted too quickly by unfriending you as it was your only way to keep in touch if he was no longer going to do so at school. I do wonder if he was expecting you to know how sensitive he was and to warn your friends ahead of time to be quiet and keep their sounds and comments to themselves. I am assuming they've teased this way before and he finally just had enough.irs. All peers who wish they had a bf/gf, will tease the few who do just because they're jealous and want the same. However I am sure your friends wouldn't do it anymore if you said something. He might be angry at you for simply going along with your friends and not standing up to them and telling them to quit the silly sound making.
You probably didn't recognize the main warning sign that this would be an issue, where he was friendly and hung out with you, only to stop once school started and then 'secretly' keep in touch via FB. that right there says, he was not wanting anyone else to know that he liked you.
Since both of you have done things so that you can't talk on FB, the most obvious thing to do with be to see if things can be repaired between you so that at least you two can chat via computer. Another thing you can do is tell your friends you do not appreciate the fact that they made a bad situation worse and you'd have to ask them to please be quiet and never let on in the future when you like a guy or he likes you in return. Without you even confessing, most people after some time spent observing can tell just by the looks and the sizzling energy between two people that they like each other, even when they are not spending any time together so dont be surprised if that happens again in the future.
To get started talking again, you can not walk up to him in school or he will react and anger and may say hurtful things to you for the benefit of those listening in so they assume its all over and hopes it means they stop teasing. You also can not pass a note to a friend of his to deliver because then he'll know his friend knows something up between you and he may fear teasing from his buddy. The only way I can think of getting a message to him is writing him a note and dropping it in his locker, preferable a time when no one else is around to see you do it. Otherwise, you may have to wait for a time when he's not at home and leave a note with his mom to give to him. But then again, who knows, he might be uncomfortable with his mom knowing. YOu can only do so much but you can't help him not be so sensitive. You can only do your best and if he doesnt respond at all, at least you'll know you didnt give up immediately and tried to reconcile with him.
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