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am virgin, sex not Now please.
Hallo am Julius from kenya am 25year am a Male, here is my question,
It is my second year in love relationship. And we trust each other. We are both new in relationshp. So i requested my love for sex bt her excuse is that Julius Am virgin and am not fan of that lets wait till marriage my question is
Is it fear coz we are both new in romantic relationshp
Is it that the girl is afraid of her bodqy and shyness
Advice
Thank you, Am julius
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Hello Julius,
Some females do like to wait until marriage and that is her choice so as already said, don't push her.
You did say it's a love relationship so there would be only one concern on my part due to my own life experience, of being a virgin at 20 when I married. I found out that we were not a match sexually.
A person can be deep in love with someone for their personality and make the best of friends. Equally impoortant is that there is a strong sexual attraction and romance. With out that, a man will not be very happy in a relationship since the female will not want sex often if she doesn't like it. And lots has to do with the guy being the right one, having the right chemistry with her. Even without having sex, you can know pretty well ahead if there is that romantic pull between you, especially on her part. Ask yourself if she loves to kiss you, cuddle, hold hands, find opportunitys to touch you often. If she is responsive when you hold her and kiss her, then there is likely a strong enough connection between you and she is simply afraid of the unknown as far as sex is concerned. If she treats you more like her brother all the time, it isn't going to magically change on your Wedding night or for the future. This is something you both need to have in common before marrying. If not, she may not be the right girl for you, no matter how much she loves you and you her in other ways.
The sex part is one half of a strong foundation for a relationship and the other being each others best friend. You can't do without one or the other.
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It could be various things. But either way, don't push her. If she wants to wait, you need to respect her wishes. You could try telling her in a gentle way that she has nothing to be shy of or worry about, but like I said, don't push your luck. Be really loving about it and stuff, and it is best to say that when whenever she is ready, and hopefully you feel that way.
Hope this helps~
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