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Could it be noticeable
F/17 I have heard that after you loose your Virginity your hips get wider is that true? I also have 2 other questions after you have had intercourse I know you bleed and I want to know for how long and when does it start exactly?
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Like Dragonflymagic said, there may be a little blood-loss when a girl has penetrative sex for the first time. It begins during sex but is generally only noticed when your boyfriend withdraws his penis afterwards. It will not (or at least should not) be heavy, profuse or prolonged 'bleeding'. Being 'wet' internally might make it look more than it actually is too. (Think about how a very minor bleed from a gum looks more because you it mixes with your saliva and 'stains' it red). The hips thing is nonsense. Yes, bearing a child and giving birth. Having sex, no. Another reason for the myth might be that a girls figure does get more 'womanly' as she matures. Hips and bust fill out showing a noticeable waist. Young girls (before puberty) are kind of straight and 'boyish' in shape. And of course, a girl is likely to dress in ways that accentuate her 'curves' at the same period. The myth is a case of putting the cart in front of the horse. The more womanly figure is a sign that the girl is maturing sexually, and will become sexually active when she chooses. Sexual activity is not causing the more womanly shape. OK?
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The part about hips getting wider is related to giving birth. The bones spread to make room for the baby to exit the womb through the vagina. For a good majority of women, the bones go all the way back to their beginning position some time after birth though not immediately. But a few women find their hip bones don't go quite all the way back and so whatever used to fit around the waist is now a bit too tight as the hips are wider. It's way more common for a female to eat way more than needed for herself and baby and gain a great amount of weight. However, breast feeding can help greatly with losing some of the weight yet too many no longer breast feed.
As for bleeding, not all women do after 1st sex. The vagina and the hymen are both stretchy elastic material. Come on, the vagina has to be for a baby to exit through it. But a few may be smaller or less elastic or just havent taken time to stretch out down there with fingers or sex toys. Even tampons use can stretch it a little bit. So the blood isn't much, probably about the same as a paper cut on finger that won't stop bleeding immediately. Nothing big. So it is likely to last only for the time immediately after. It should be flowing like a period cus if you are, you probably just started your period and having sex can make a period thats about ready to start, start right then.
Do not rely on friends your age for info on sex because they are just guessing or passing on what they have heard. There is so little sex education for people your age that you can't wait for someone to decide to teach you, you really need to become proactive and want to search out the truth for yourself which you are doing by writing us. However, in the long run, I suspect there'll be so much more you need to learn and know that is true, not just misleading gossip. You're at an age where you can self teach yourself. I know of a you tube gal who started when she was younger than you to self educate, by going to books and other valid sources for information and now has popular video clips about any and all subjects you can imagine regarding dating, relationships, sex and debunkking myths, etc.
Her name is Laci Green. I highly recommend you watch all her clips. She's currently college aged and has even worked with Planned Parenthood to create some videos for them.
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no your hips do not get wider thats absolutely not true.
You may bleed a LITTLE because your hymen was stretched out or torn and it happens usually during and a little after but normally its not enough to make you have to even wear a pad.
But telling him to go slowly and using a condom and lube will make it a LOT less uncomfortable and it will lower the chance of bleeding. it he just barrels into you without lube and goes really fast then yes this will increase the chance of pain/discomfort and bleeding.
the only thing that CAN be more noticeable with being around someone after theyve experienced sex for the first few times is (with guys they seem way more relaxed,comfortable in their own skin, chill, and possibly want to be involved with more women because the hormones are raging. other then that theres no noticeable change other them MAYBE personality and views on the opposite sex.
with females, the same can be true, more relaxed, and so on.
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