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growing up
I'm a sophomore in highachool and recently I've been thinking how in only two years I'll be leaving for college/embarking on a whole new experience of life . I'm really nervous just thinking about it even though it seems so far away . Anyway I can calm myself about life feeling so short and quick ?
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First relax your not the only teenager to feel this way. Most all of us felt this way when we could actually see college on the horizon. Right now it will be hard for you to accept this but you will feel this way again in about 40 years when retirement is on the Horizon.
Fear of the unknown of doing something new is normal as long as it isn't paralyzing. The best thing you can do for yourself is to prepare for going to college. Start talking with you parents not so much as to what they expect from you as far as grades but what they can support in the way of preparation. IF you have never been away from home, not a visit to grandparents, but to summer camp where you stay for a the summer. Could they afford to pay to be a junior counselor at some camp. By you being a junior counselor it is less expensive. You have some adult type responsibilities and you are away from home for the summer.
Apply for early acceptance if you have the grades to do so. Then visit the college and get to know the campus before you arrive for your first semester of classes. Find the dorms, the cafeteria, the different lecture halls and classrooms. In general become familiar with the campus so it is not a strange place you get dropped in.
Things mom has been doing for you since you were born you will have to do for yourself. Ask mom to teach you how to do these things now and start doing them so you are accomplished at them.
Most of all just relax going off to college is just another phase in life that once you get there you will quickly adapt to. Will you get home sick? Probably but that will pass as you become involved with school and make new friends. Just remember you will not be alone feeling as you will be. Every other freshman will feel the same. Some may not show it but underneath the smiles and the joking they will be feeling just as you are.
So relax, prepare and then enjoy your college experience for you only really get one chance at this type of college experience.
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A lot of fear and trepidation can be due to not feeling fully equipped to take on responsibility for oneself. So the answer is to have a good talk with the parents and work close with them, in trying to do more decision making on your own right now. What I propose is something my husband did with his daughter. Whenever there was a decision to be made on anything regarding her, she first tried to decide on what she saw as the best choice, then she ran it by Dad to see what he thought of it. Its a good way for using parents as a sounding board to bounce your ideas off of. LIke writing in here for advice but your parents know your and your particular situation better than any of us ever could. This way you can learn if you are a bit too short sighted or don't look far enough ahead or fail to consider all possible outcomes before making a decision. Once you find that your decision making is as solid as theirs, even if your end choice is something they wouldn't personally do, then you won't have as hard a time with entering your adult years and be able to enjoy them without worrying all the time whether you are doing it right or the best way. Good luck dear.
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