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Depressed girlfriend clarification
So for those of you who replied to my question about my depressed girlfriend, I realized when I saw your answers that I definitely hadn't given enough information. I'm not stupid, I am not trying to take care of her all on my own. In fact I have straight up told her that "this is hard on me and I cannot do this alone. We're going to find additional help for you" and we did. Trust me, I am very aware that she needs a series of professionals to help her out, and so is she. She has been seeing therapists and psychiatrists and counselors for years, and I'm pretty sure she's been on every type and every dosage of medication for her illness that there is. She does not encourage me to ditch school at all, in fact she was mad about it when I did. But that day, she'd told me that she might kill herself, so I kind of had to prioritize. I ditched CHOIR, you guys. It wasn't a huge deal. Her parents are not very good people, and they often accuse my girlfriend of being lazy when she struggles to get out of bed in the morning or they tell her that she inconveniences the family with her need for extra care. If anything, her parents (particularly her mother) tend to make things 100 times worse. They denied her of a day therapy program/support group thing and they don't really see mental illness as actual sickness, so they're no help. Also, I am EXTREMELY aware that she could kill herself, because she has tried to before. I was the one to talk her out of it. I realize that it's going to be excruciatingly painful for me if she does ever go through with it, but I love her unconditionally and I will stay by her side to support her while I can. I have a lot of faith in her, and I see that she still has hope. I'm not going to give up, especially when she needs me most. She can get better, and I know it will take a lot of time, but she deserves the world and I am going to try with every fiber of my being to make hers at least a little brighter every day. I guess that all I really need right now is some extra advice on how to deal with my emotions in this situation. I know I can't "fix her" or anything, but I can support her, and I'd like to do that in the best way that I possibly can. I'm sorry about any confusion. Thank you.
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Lets slow your roll a little here. no one is attacking you for what you did, and i was not condemning you for having ditched a class (no matter how dumb the class was) im was just trying to use that as a vessel to get you to see that bigger picture here.
YOU came to US for advice and then gave vague and general details that didnt really help any of us to really give you what you needed.
Im glad that your girlfriend is still getting or trying to get the help she needs for whatever it is she has (which you did really go into too much detail about either) It really helps to be as specific as possible on here because we DONT know you and we're trying to get the clearest picture of you and your situation and all we have to go on is what your telling us. nothing more.
Its good to see that you are dedicated to her in the way that you are and being the support system she needs, but i do agree with grandfather.
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As you seem to be determined to stick by her no matter what, I assume that you have already determined that you possess the ability and capacity to follow through unconditionally. This is going to require putting all of her needs ahead of your own and is going to entail making an enormous sacrifice on your part with no certainty of ever receiving a reward and is contrary to most successful relationships where BOTH parties give and both receive.
So, my advice to you is to put all of your emotions in your back pocket so that you can assist your girlfriend with hers. Best wishes to you both.
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