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My guy best friend
I've had a crush on my guy best friend and the other day he asked me out I said yes and now I'm scared things will get weird if you can tell me what I should do when we brake up please do I don't want my friendship to end. (P.S I'm a 13 year old girl.)
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First of all stop thinking of ' break up' cos it would push you into breaking up real fast and ruining your whole friendship remember dating is like a friendship and since you guys have been friends since it is going to make things a lot easier see him as a friend even though you are dating and everything would just be fine. Just relax I understand this is your first or? Remember when you are dating someone you become best friends and since you are best friends already everything is going to by fine, just don't allow anything ruin the friendship, if anything is bothering you feel free to tell him share your thoughts with him and that would strengjten your relationship.
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So, are you saying that you only like him as a friend and don't have any romantic feelings when with him? If not sure, picture him remaining your friend but going out with and dating other girls, maybe even a girlfriend of yours. If you have no romantic feelings and he promises to remain your friend, then it wouldn't be a problem and you'd be glad your male best friend found himself someone like that just as you'd hope he'd feel the same for you. If you cant picture that without getting upset, then there's a good chance you do have feelings that are starting for him. They dont have to be like a hot blazing fire right at the start, some will grow to become that over time spent together. So decide first how you really do feel about him before saying anything. Maybe he is just wnating to spend time with you as a friend and this is not an official bf/gf date to him. You won't know unless you go. If you do like him as a bf not just a friend, then you will continue to remain best of friends. In fact, thats what I recommend for having a healthy long lasting relationship to older adults. At your age, most dating relationships do not have a long life expectancy. Also for older adults, the other part to a good relationship is the two both having a strong chemistry, one that can last beyond the first couple of months of being romantic cus many times, people thought it was the real thing but it isn't if it fades away in time. This chemistry is important as much as being sexually compatible once they act upon it. At your age, it's best to wait a while to go that far but you can certainly tell if there is chemistry. If after time of being near him, flirting,, holding hands, and kisses, you should be able to still feel attracted, excited and tingly and enjoy him, if its faded, then you can only be best friends but nothing more and more is needed to be able to be datting couple.
As for breaking up, as i've explained, it's not necessary unless either he or you or both feel awkward around each other if one has the romantic feelings and the other doesn't. I can't say that will happen. If it does, then be honest and tell him that you feel awkward now being around him knowing how he feels when you don't, if he's okay with you maybe not seeing him as often or just keeping in touch more in text or computer, then that should be easier. If thats still uncomfortable, then tell him, you need to stop hanging with him as a friend. Hope this helps. This situation is not an easy one, even for older adults. But its part of life and something we all have to go through at some point.
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