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I still feel lost.
I'm a 22 year old male college student in California, (won't specify where) and for the longest time, I've been feeling very trapped in this college environment. I go to a school where they focus on casual sex, partying, etc. a lot, and as an introvert, I've always felt left out and actually a bit angry about the people around me. Especially since I haven't even kissed a girl for over four years.
However, just recently last week, I hooked up with a random girl from a club. Even though she was pretty, and I seemingly got what I wanted after all this time, I STILL feel unfulfilled, unhappy, and empty. I still feel the same way about the town I live in. I just want to move out of the state someone a little colder, more personal, and more genuine. Even after hooking up with a girl, I don't feel anything, I still feel lost, empty, and a bit sad. Why is this?
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There is definitely not something wrong with you and I think a lot o people feel unfulfilled by this kind of empty pleasure and honestly I personally never understood people who could be content living such shallow lives. That being said, I know that kind of lifestyle really does exist in almost all colleges, however the upside is that almost all colleges also have a lot of other options of lifestyles, they are just a little harde to seek out. I would start looking for things to get involved in other than partying etc, join some clubs, find hobbies or student groups projects to get involved with volunteering working etc and meet people no do things other than party and wi that comes girls who are looking for something more satisfying.
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If you're going to school for something you want, then that should be good motivation. And if you can't transfer somewhere else, then you should find some way to make yourself happy with where you are at.
The only thing that is holding you back is yourself. So if you're stuck there for the time being, make the most of it.
I think you should find things you use to love doing. Join clubs that interest you and make friends with people who are more like you. I'm positive you're not the only person at that school that is not into partying and casual sex.
So if you can't leave where you are at, go and make the most of it. That's the best advice I can give you.
I can't really tell you why you feel the way you do. Maybe because you're not going out of your way to find what you really want? Or maybe you're just not in the right environment? I can't tell you, but just try new things and try to enjoy what you do have.
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Before you went to college what did you enjoy doing? Try going out and doing something by yourself and find what makes you happy.
Surround yourself with positive people and positive vibes.
Depend on you to make yourself happy and not sex and parties.
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sounds like a few things are going on here. Question, number 1 on the list of things to ask yourself here: are you in college for something YOU want to do? aka (not something your family wants you to do or NOT something you would pick)
2: are you in any clubs, or have any common interests with other people? this would probably help you feel more welcomed and adjusted if you were.
and finally, just because you hooked up with a random girl doesnt mean your suddenly going to feel more fulfilled and happier, if anything this can leave someone who is otherwise good hearted, loving, and looking to be in a long term committed relationship feeling the exact same way YOU are right now. see where im going with this??
Your obviously in touch enough with your emotions for me to be able to tell that your a good, loving person thats probably just looking for someone to return that love.
try doing some things FOR YOU, that make YOU feel good, try finding people that share common interests with you but most of all try to stay positive. The vibes you give off to others makes a huge difference in your approach-ability from other peoples stand point and if your friendly and helpful and "seem chill and easy to talk to" people WILL gravitate towards that. ; )
good luck.
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