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I never exprienced having crush
I'm 17, I never even had a crush since i was born. I am completely normal. It is just I have never felt anything towards opposite sex or same sex. I can tell that a girl is pretty but no, I never had a chance to like anyone. I never even fall inlove. seriously I never even had crush. What should I do? what am I? am I normal or what? I'm worried I want to have gf.
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I don't know much about asexuality as a condition. I've actually just heard about it for the first time today, so I learned something new.
My first thought when I read your question was that, if you come from a very stable home, where your parents loved eachother and taught you right from wrong etc., a happy home, then you're going to have less crushes. A lot of people don't realize til they're much older that they attractions to people are sometimes to recreate the relationship they watched their parents have. If it was dysfunctional, they keep finding themselves attracted to the wrong type of person chronically
Sometimes they are unconsciously recreating the relationship they had with a parent. People whose parents abused them tend to choose abusive personalities.
Many people do this until they figure out what they're doing and make an effort to make better choices.
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Read up on asexuality and aromanticism! There's nothing wrong with you at all, and you're perfectly healthy and normal.
Just as some people feel attraction to different genders, some people don't feel attraction at all.
There's a pretty big community online of people who identify as asexual and aromantic, so there are plenty of resources for you.
You're also only 17, so even if you do find yourself attracted to someone later in life, that's just you growing as a person and finding out what you like and don't like.
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With the desire to have a girlfriend, I'd have to say that you just haven't found someone yet worthy of your attention.
I am female and never had crushes or dated in high school. The guys were too immature for me, I was too practical and logical and couldn't be bothered with someone who wasn't willing to be a male best friend like my female friends. I was not going to respond to guys who left hints they were interested in my body only.
And I am normal also. These days where alternative sexuality has come out of the closet, we hear so much more about it than in my day in HS. I am not surprised that teens question what their sexuality is.
So I will make an important point, whether you are straight, gay, bi or transgender, you do not need to have a partner to make your sexuality valid. You can know what you are, without having any previous experience, such as a child of 8 knowing their body says they are one sex and but they feel like the other inside and gravitate towards that naturally. They don't need to have dated or have sex yet to know that.
I too notice male and female bodies that I find attractive looking too but I don't have the automative sexual response in my body, so I know I am not bi. I don't need to have sex with a girl to know that.
There are two needs a person has for a partner, one being the emotional needs met and the other the sexual needs met.
If by chance you have a low libido or perhaps are one type of Asexual, you may not easily find yourself attracted at a sexual level but still have a need for the emotional connection. Until you turn 18 and are the age of legal consent to have sex, I wouldn't even think about that part yet, you can experiment later there, for now find females who you admire for a friend, for the conversation, the sharing, caring, being there for each other to help support when needed, etc...the emotional bonds. If you don't see someone like that, don't worry, eventually you will find someone like that. You could spend some time online researching stories and videos on you tube of those who are bi, gay, transgender. There was no mention of bi or transgender when I was in school so I will at times go watch videos, watch past TV interviews or read articles about those who know they are transgender, to understand their plight and what can and can't be done at what time period for them. It's very educational to help you understand yourself and where you fit and also to be able to put yourself in someone elses shoes as to what they deal with in life being something other than heterosexual and yet life can be fulfilling, no matter what you are. You just have to understand it and not be afraid of it. Good luck.
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