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Concerned about lonely teenage sister?
Me and my twin are very different.
We both go to different Uni's in different cities in Britain.
While I am getting on fine and have friends and a life outside work etc I am very concerned about my sister.
She lives in a flat with just three other boys. Two are Chinese and happily go about there business and are NEVER seen in the flat. And the other male flat mate is also never around as he has moved out to live with his girlfriend.
I stayed at her flat and it was very quiet. She is very shy and quite awkward in terms of making friends. She has very few and also she is on a course where most people are adult learners. She's 19.
I want to help her because I feel she's missing out on the best years supposedly of her life. But I don't want to outwardly point out she's lonely thus upsetting her even more and causing stress.
She does attend one society a week but only for an hour.
Any advice is appreciated!
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It is wonderful that you care so deeply about how your sister is doing. It would be am amazing would if everyone felt that same way about their siblings.
The thing you have to understand is that everyone is different and we can't just put each person into the same box. While you may feel bad for her and think she is lonely, have you considered that maybe she doesn't feel that way? If she doesn't then there is no need to feel bad for her.
However, if you know and do not just think she feels lonely in her life, you can surely try to help her. Since she's the shy type, perhaps trying to get her involved with either a local or online group for social anxiety support could be helpful. If she lacks self confidence, you could gift her a good book called Ten Days to Self-Esteem by cognitive behavioral David Burns.
All in all, the important thing is that you are there to support her as her sister.
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