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will I get herpes?
I'm a 22 year old guy and I was with a girl who claimed she has herpes. Although she didn't specify which kind, I'm sure she meant genital herpes, not oral, as she stated she had sores around her vagina area. Anyway, we kissed. She didn't have any sores or anything on her mouth, and I'd just like to know if I can somehow get herpes from kissing her? She claimed that she doesn't have oral herpes, which I know can be spread through kissing. I didn't do anything else with her, and I'm still a virgin. Any advice will help. Thank you.
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As something of a hypochondriac at times, I've done my fair share of research on herpes (more technically called the Herpes Simplex Virus) over the years.
First off, as you probably already knew, genital and oral herpes are two different stands of the virus. But since you are only really concerned at this point with oral herpes, I can assure you that it is an extremely common condition. So much so that it is not even recognized exclusively as a sexually transmitted disease.
For example, babies sometimes acquire it from adult relatives who give them kisses while they are in a particular contagious state.
Generally speaking, I would expect that it would have been very unlikely for you to be infected unless she either had visible soars or possibly an open wound near her mouth.
After all, what most people refer to as cold sores only happen to due herpes.
But, with that being said, you should always be cautious and it is never a bad idea to have routine tests done. You can even get them for free at your local health department clinic in some cases.
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There is always a possibility of getting herpes. Here's why.
Most Drs when screening for STD's do not check for Herpes anymore. Why? Because most the population already has it. How can that be?
You would think if someone had the sores at the time, and being painful, that they wouldn't engage in any kissing or intercourse or even touching someone else in any sexual way down there if they had an outbreak.
So either the majority of people are grinning and bearing the pain and doing it anyways, and their partner can obviously see the sores and stupidly engages with them even so....
or.... people who have the virus are passing it on, unintentionally somehow.
And thats why it is so widespread. The greatest majority of people who have it are just carriers, it shows up in a test that they have it, they just havent had any outbreak to even become knowledgable that they have it due to an outbreak. These unknowing carriers only tend to increase they chances of an outbreak if they go through some really stressful times and the stress is what causes the virus residing in our bodies at the base of our nervers to climb to the surface and sit on our skin for a day or so without any outbreak yet showing. How do I know all this? I am a carrier. My mom had the oral kind but never passed it on to me, at least, I don't have the oral kind. When I divorced and began to look for a new partner, I thought with my next female exam I'd ask them to check for everything including herpes, I wanted to be able to tell a guy I was clean. The test came back positive, I was a carrier and had not had any outbreak, however some of the nasty stuff after leaving the ex was even more stressful than all stress and abuse after leaving him, and my body hit its limit for stress and I had an outbreak finally. So I have learned that there can be a hint before an outbreak, a day or two before. The skin at the particular spot feels chafed, irritated, a bit tender. If I feel that, I won't have sex, I wait two days to see if it develops into a sore or not. Sometimes, I was right and a sore comes along, another, maybe my pants fit too tight. Its those couple days where it can easily be passed on and why so many people have it and don't know it. The only way you can know for sure is to ask your Dr. to test for it as they dont automatically test for it unless asked to.
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