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My crush has not call
There is this cute guy in my class and I noticed him a couple of weeks ago. Over time I developed a crush on him but he sit far from me. I am a shy girl so I decided to give him a note with my number. so, when I see him after class I hand it to him and he shook my hand and introduce himself. Its been a few days with no call. Although I am patient most people say that if he has not call yet, he is not interested. At first, I was sure he would call and I am still hopeful. I wonder if he has not call me because he does not really know me or what to say. I really like this guy and I wanted to get his number but I want him to chase me so I gave him mines. Maybe he thought it was weird. But, I was confident and proud of myself for doing it . In addition, I consider myself to be an attractive person. So I need a guy perspective as I patiently wait.
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I'm proud of you. You gave him a note even tho being shy.That's a good way to go. However, as you guessed, just from observing you in class, he probably doesn't know you enough to know if he'd like going out with you. So he needs some activities as suggested to get to know you in a group setting. "Hey Todd, some friends and I were going to the mall tonight/on the weekend, and I wonder if you'd like to go along. If he doesnt respond to the mall thing, perhaps try rollerscating or to the movies. If no response, even with the chances to get to know you, there's not enough initial attraction in just looks to get his interest. It does not reflect at all on your looks. Keep that in mind. Everyone has different tastes in what they like and if chemistry is also missing, it just won't happen. Sometimes the chemistry, the crush you feel is only one way.
Guys who are a bit less than 100% confident are not going to ask a girl out or even just call as a friend for fear of send the wrong message to a girl that they are really into her, love her, want to date, ask to be her boyfriend. It's more common than you'd think. Just from observing or hearing stories, they will know a good majority of girls have an emotional breakdown because they assumed more about the relationship/friendship than there really was so guys in general can be hesitant to make a move because of that.
If he hasn't called, either he's lost the note with the phone number, isn't interested at all, or has a lot of priorities that came up claiming his time and a guy wont make a girl one of their top 3 priorities until they come to want her, her friendship, her personality, looks and charm.
So get some friends to help agree to group outings you can invite him to. then make sure to get his number so you can call to tell him what time to meet you there or perhaps someone with a car is willing to go with you to pick him up if needed. If he isn't willing to give out his number, but willing to go, don't worry, give him time to get to know you. Either he'll become comfortable with you or not. Good luck.
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Weel at this age, guys can sometimes be intimidated by pretty confident girls. Dont be put off to much he just might really like you back ALOT more than your realize and is scared at the thought of texting or calling you.
What you might try INSTEAD is getting a group together to go out and do something outside of school and have him come along. Get your friends that know him to all go to the mall together and plan a trip there, hit up the game arcade, get pizza together, see a movie and this will be your chance to get to know him and get more of a feel for him and see if he likes you. Then he wont feel like the pressure is all on him!
then while your at the mall, offer to split the cost of a big bag of candy or something like that! show that your generous and willing to give what you have in order to get what you want. its little things like this that will give him the idea that you like him and that its OK to like you back. When he does talk, make jokes, ask questions about things related to what your talking about and keep things positive.
Just be sure to plan things with your friends to make SURE hes there and included in what your doing. ; )
youll find out from a day with him who he really likes or doesnt like, and DONT bring up that he hasnt called you. He might feel like your putting him on the spot and get nervous. play it cool and pretend like its not a big deal and you just wanted to hang out sometime with some other friends and "thought you would include him cause he seemed cool".
good luck
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