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I am not sure who is the baby's father... I need advice!
I'm pregnant and not sure who is the baby's father?
My last period was on 28th November 2014. I had anal sex with my fiance on 2nd December 2014, and he left his cum inside my ass. I had a big fight with my fiance on 3rd December 2014. I let out the stressed when clubbing end up slept with my best friend on 5th December 2014. My best friend using condom. On the 7th December I had another sex with my best friend. And our sex become regularly till end of December. All the time he is using condom. But twice his condom broke but he let his cum outside. I make up with my fiance and had sex with him on 5th January as usual he always left his cum inside my ass. I'm confused who is the baby's father? :'(
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Enough of us have watch Maury on TV to know that paternity tests are easy in this day and age to determine who the father is. If I were you, I'd go talk to the best friend and ask him to take a paternity test. If it comes back positive that he is the father, then you have a decision to make. I am positive that if these two men are the only ones involved with you, that the fiancee is not the father. Anal sex doesn't result in pregnancy because the sperm would have to travel too far. In a rare case, perhaps a large amount of cum running from the anus to the folds of your labia, there is a slight chance they can survive there long enough to make it inside, but its correct as said, the cum and sperm have been exposed to bacteria. If anal sex is the only thing fiancee prfers, you're more likely to get a vaginal infection from liquid in the ass traveling to the pussy or being taken there by penis that goes straight from anus to pussy. Thats a recipe for infection.
So if you are 100% sure, Dr. tested you and you are pregnant, and best friend is the father, you have decisions to make not just for yoursself but now on behalf of baby. The real father deserves to know he has a child coming, the fiancee shouldn't have someone elses child secretly fobbed off on him to raise, he deserves to know before you marry him. Unless the real father has anger issues, abuse in his life background, or is a pedophile, for babys sake, my vote is that its better having the real dad raise his child with you or at least have visiting rights/being in the kids life.
On an aside, I am just wondering, why if the other male is your best friend and there is enough chemistry for you to have sex in the first place, why you aren't engaged to him? You don't have to ask me, just think about all your options. If he's been against marriage for whatever reason before, he could change his mind knowing you carry his child, if he was meaning to ask you but was too slow to ask and then backed down and said nothing once you announced your other engagement, you could be headed for marriage without knowing you had two choices, which one really is the guy you get better along with, enjoy laughing and talking with, most compatible sexually?
Most girls with a male best friend lack the sexual attraction, therefore he is just a friend without any romantic overtones. The fact that yours isn't strictly a male best friend, makes me wonder if he may be an option for you in a marriage. Other possibilitys: Either you are not ready to be monogamous going from one serial relationship to another, or you may be polyamorous, which if fiancee isn't, then it's a mistake to marry. Or your morals could differ greatly from fiancee's whereby he sees' you as a cheater and dumps you or wants a divorce, depending on when he discovers the news.
If you can so easily have sex with another while dating or engaged, how do you think marriage to this guy is going to magically make you no longer want to go occasionally to your best friend for sex? Oh, maybe there has to be a need? Like anger, retaliation or just plain old not totally satisfied by fiancee even if he's a good guy. Lots of people are married to nice, good people who are their best friends but have no love life cus they lack a real strong chemistry there. Or others are married to someone who flips their world upside down cus sexually they are the hottest match but they cant get along in any other way cus they cus are not best friends to each other. Both are needed to make a healthy relationship. I know nothing about your fiancee to know whether he is a best friend too or if the sex life is fantastic. But I do know that you likely have both foundations, friendship/sex covered with the best friend. take your time, don't rush into marriage. You have until the baby starts to show to say something to either of them.
Or say nothing, let fiancee assume it's his and worry about whether the kid will look more like your best friend as it grows up, or about husband finding out down the road the kid isn't his, like if the child goes to the hospital for something, and it becomes clear to Drs. that he is not the father. For any hereditary problems, you wont be able to go with husbands history but require the real fathers medical history to help Drs. help your child. So it can easily become a stickt mess later. As scary as it is, with the possibility of him dumping you and breaking off engagement, I feel it is the lesser of two evils. You are in a position where there is no trouble free easy path to take. Each choice at this point will have its own set of problems. Don't try to solve it by looking only at immediate needs and issues but at the long term down the road that can happen.
Hoping you will be at peace with the choice you make.
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It is considered impossible to get pregnant from anal sex. The anal cavity is just too inhospitable for sperm to live in that environment. The most likely father of your child is your best friend.
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