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what do you do when a boy askes you out
what do you do when a boy askes you out?
I am a female the age of 14
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First you must decide if you like this boy and want to get to know him. If the answer is yes then at 14 years of age you must have some rules from your parents about dating you have to follow those rules. If you don't have rules about dating then you need to discuss dating with your parents for all parents have rules for dating. You need to tell this boy what the rules for dating are if you have them. If you don't have rules on dating you say to him I think I would like to go on a date with you but I have to ask my parents first.
At your age I would not allow you to date in the fullest sense of the word. What I would allow is a group type date for a trip to the mall, Bowling, skating or a movie. Call this dating 101 where you get to learn how to date. My concern is for you as your father I know what is on this boys mind and I want to protect you. There is safety in numbers and public places are safer than non-public places. Also this boy must be in your grade in school or 1 grade higher but no older than 15. Your mother or me have to meet him before you can go out on this group date.
These rules are carved in stone type rules that are carved in stone. Designed for your safety. If you and your parents have not had a conversation on dating yet do not be surprised if what I have written as rules are close to what your parents give you as rules. These are the rules my sister had and these are the rules my nieces had. I did not have a daughter but if I did these would have been her rules.
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Depends on a few things. Do you even like the guy who is asking you? If not, say thank you for asking but I'm afraid I'll have to disappoint you, cus I just am not interested.
If you are not sure of how you feel about him because you've had no contact with him and really know nothing, it's okay to go out with a guy to find out more about him. I suggest hanging out as friends first. You might also warn him up front that you're willing to go out and get to know him better as you don't really know him yet. And once you've had a chance to know if you really like him or not, you will either keep dating or let him know that it's not going to work for you. I believe that is what the purpose of dating is all about, so there's lots of trials and errors as we go about learning who we like and that means breaking up, or saying no or dumping a person, whatever your choice of words is.
Also, in some cases, the decision is made for you. The parents have rules that you can't date until you are 16, then tell him so. If the rules are group outings okay but no private dates, then let him know and plan for that.
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