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im being blackmailed by my ex using my sensitive photos
how should i respond to his threat? he said he would distribute the pics in the net and my school's facebook page. please help
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I disagree with IchigoMidorikawa about going to the police.
The police do not care about you - they will go for the arrest and prosecution because it's an achievement on their records at zero risk or work. The photos of you become evidence - you don't get to say what happens to them. As Maggie McNeil likes to say: "never call the cops for any reason whatsoever".
Just threaten this person with what will happen if they do put those photos on facebook. They will possibly wind up in prison as a sex offender, never be able to get a job, won't qualify for federal loans for college: a variety of stuff.
After all: the entire point of all those penalties is to discourage people from commiting this particular crime.
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If you are a high school student, than not only is he making a criminal threat, what he is suggesting he would do is a criminal act. Posting explicit photos of an underage girl is the kind of thing that can get him on the sex offenders registry for life.
So tell him you'll call the police if those photos show up anywhere, and you'll show them the threats he made. And if he's very lucky, all that will happen in the police will talk to his parents and he's likely to get suspended from school for his actions against a fellow student. If he is less lucky, he could be looking at time in jail and a lifetime on the same list with rapists and pedophiles. However you look at it, it's just not worth it.
Then you should tell your parents or at least, another trusted adult in your life. You made a mistake, but that's okay. A lot of people make mistakes like this sometimes. You still deserve support and you should ask for it. Don't suffer alone with this fear and stress.
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Try telling your parents or someone you trust about the incident. If you don't think they would know or are unsure of what to do or may just make it worse, it might be best just to ask for their support.
I suggest you take this to the police. Screenshot evidence of the messages he sent threatening you (or not if he said in person but evidence is always key to bringing it down straight away). If there isn't evidence, tell the police anyway. If you don't want the awkwardness or embarrassment, just tell yourself it's people yoand u'll probably never see again but will keep it confidential or your whole school which is more embarrassing and horrid anyway.
Since you are still in school, it is illegal to have any nudes on your phones/computers and will get wiped from the phone by the police and he will be in serious trouble. Don't quote me on this because I'm not sure but I believe child pornography is banned even when you're the same age and it is just pictures. Plus, blackmail is a whole other thing he can get done for.
I hope this helps and I hope you can get this sorted. But I also hope this may have taught you a lesson too. No sending sensitive (nudes I'm guessing, if not he can still get in big trouble just for blackmail) photos to others when you are just in school. Good luck.
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