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why are my parents so mean to me?
Okay so i don't know why people are so mean to me.. Like my parents too. I'm nice and sweet and I give my everything, but I guess that's not enough. I'm a female I'm 15 years old. Everyone says that I can't do anything and that I'm useless. I try not to care but its my parents telling me I don't even get told that at school like wtf. But I wanted to know why are my parents so mean to me?
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My son and I had the same argument before. He confronted me one day and said "Look Dad, we have to talk." So we did. Let me share to you a summary of the conversation.
My son said I was always picking on him, nitpicking on everything he does and considered him unless making him feel really useless. He added that I don't understand his situation, and that the world has changed since the time I was 15. Mind you, my son just turned 16 this December.
When he was done blowing up on me - yes, I let my son blow off steam from time to time - I asked him if he had an open mind to my response. To this, he said, yes.
I told him that i honestly don't want to remind him everything that he does wrong. The task of reminding someone what to do day in and day out, every minute and every second does not benefit me and it was really tiring. To this, he said, I guess I do put myself in place where you can always remind me.
I nitpick on everything because he has to learn that in order for him to be respected by the world someday, the allowance for error should be really small, and consistency on his integrity is really important. To this he said, "That's the point dad, it is old fashioned and it does not work in the world anymore."
Which got me to the last part. The new world. I looked at him and said, "Look around, what do you see. You yourself can say that the world does not look highly on principles and integrity. It does nitpick on mistakes and condemn people for reasons they come up with. The wrong becomes right as long as the mistaken party can have his or her share of fun." And he said, "Well, yeah?"
Finally, I asked him, "Isn't that the definition of ugly?"
I will tell you what i told my son.
"We see things the way we want to see them. We don't ask what they mean, we just assume we know. We want to get what we want, and shrug the consequences that comes with them. We are reckless and we act on emotions. That is why we fail all the time."
Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. I am sure they will understand. Don't assume that they won't.
Good luck.
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Don't ever let anyone tell you that your less than what you are. Be nice to the ppl that deserve it and don't be as nice to the other people. Never let anyone change you. Being nice us a good quality and you will find someone one day that will appreciate you! Good luck!
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This is a very hard question to answer for two reasons. One I do not know you or your parents. Second your parents really don't hate you. They haven't changed your changing and this is natural for all children your age it's called puberty.
With puberty comes a host of new hormones floating through your plus you are female and your body is changing in many ways. You are older and want more freedom. You have more responsibilities especially in school. More is expected of you at home and in school. Your social life is changing. All of this puts a great deal of stress into your life.
You are going through what your grandparents called a phase when your parents went through what you are now going through. They expected and most children did grow out of it. When now know this is not a phase but a medical condition that doctors can help you with.
It is a medical condition that is a form of depression that strikes only teenagers during puberty. It is caused by a chemical imbalance and is not a mental illness. Now depression of any type caused us to perceive things differently then they are. Since we perceive them therefore they are meaning what we perceive is real even if it is wrong.
At 15 you are old enough to make your own doctors appointments. My advice is either ask mom to take you to the family doctor or make your own appointment. Ask to be screened for teenage depression. It is painless and consists of talking with the doctor and answering some questions. The doctor will probably want to do a complete physical and run some test. Let the doctor do so as this is to rule out any organic reason for the way you feel.
Your parents do not hate you and the are not being mean though I understand why you feel this way. As the saying goes your 15 going on 20. Slow down be a teenager and let your parents guide you this what they are here for. The teenage years can be a wonderful time if you slow down and enjoy them.
See the doctor and make sure you are not suffering from teenage depression then we can talk again if need be. I am 99% sure the problem you are having with your parent is hormonal causes by puberty and that can be fixed.
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