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New York City
13/f
last summer i visited new york city and loved it. I live in a small city in california and love the idea of growing up in new york. I mean theres so much to do and the idea of being in such a different environment excites me. So I've thought a lot about it, and decided that it would be awesome if we moved there. I know it sounds stupid, but everything seems boring here. I want to experience new things and grow up, have my teenage years in New York. I would miss my friends, but moving isn't the end of the world. I would feel bad asking my brother, sister, and parents to do this though. I don't want them to go through having to adapt to a new environment if their heart isn't in it.I finally concluded that I can't ask my family to move for me But i don't think i can not go back there. All I seem to think about is my time in New York. Every spare second I have is spent imagining me in New York or having the chance to audition for broadway(I love performing)No its not my hormones messing with my brain and this isn't a passing phase. What do I do?
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I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you know how some kids really, really want to go Hogwarts? Yeah. That is what you are feeling. New York may be a real place, but you are falling into exactly that kind of fantasy.
There was never any way that your parents were going to uproot their entire lives just because you thought you might be happier in NYC. It's not just that it would be unfair to ask them - it's probably just not possible. They need to work, and NYC is an EXTREMELY expensive place to live. That was a little dream you had that was never, ever based in reality.
If you want to get to NYC, really get there, then you need to be realistic. You need to look into camps for people your age, and scholarships and opportunities to study something in New York. You need to start saving your money so you can visit. You need to stop indulging in the fantasy of a 'growing up a teenager there', because if you don't, just like someone who can't stop wishing they were a wizard at Hogwarts, you will make yourself absolutely miserable.
If you are unsatisfied in your life, look around you and try to find something you can achieve and a way to connect with others. Start making something, or playing something, or volunteering, but don't waste all your time in a dreamland. Not only will you not get to NYC by driving yourself to distraction dreaming of it, you will also miss out on that actual awesome teenage years you actually have.
Major cities are great. I moved to one when I was 17, I started planing for that move when I was 14. It was hard work to get here, and sometimes it's damn hard to stay, but I was never blinded by the fantasy. It was a tough move and there a ton of downsides of living in a major city. I'll likely never own home here, because you basically need two people making $100,000 each to do that. I love the food, and the festivals, but I hate the mess and the noise.
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NYC can be very enchanting to someone from a small town visiting. Having grown up just outside of NYC I can tell you that living there NYC would very quickly lose its charm.
First: NYC is one of the top five most expensive cities to live in. Even if your parents were or you when you are old enough to move there, were to live outside the city it would not be any less expensive. In fact it could be more expensive as the city imposes a commuter tax on top of the other taxes you pay.
Second: The schools in the City are not the best in the country. In fact the children of the wealthy generally go to private schools.
Third: New Yorkers as a general rule are very rude. They have to be as there are over 8 million people squeezed on to that tiny island; more during the working hours.
When I left New York I lost my wife's income totally and I took a pay cut. Still our lifestyle improved dramatically and was even better once my wife returned to work.
Yes New York is a great place to visit and with the right educational background does offer some great work opportunities. As for gaining access to the stage your hopes and dreams are easily dashed if you expect to act on Broadway. Broadway is reserved for seasoned actors. You would have to spend your time far off Broadway to earn the right to work on a Broadway stage. It is called paying your dues.
You say this isn't a passing phase. You're 13 you are going to experience many new things over then next 5 years. Even old things will be new as you will see them in a new light brought on by the hormones of puberty.
Yes this is a phase; maybe not the acting career that may mature and blossom. You may decide on a path to this goal that excludes NYC at first. But this is phase of youthful experience and while it will pass it will also mature.
Try and get your parents to go back to NYC if you do I assure you with a second look NYC will look different. Some of the glitter will be gone.
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