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Should I dump him?
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs. we live together and we love each other. But a lot has changed and we don't do anything anymore. He asks for money every time I get paid. And all I wanna do is hang out with him. But I'm just confused about everything. What should I do?
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It is really hard to give you the type of advice you are looking for based on the limited information you have given. You say EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED.
The word EVERYTHING encompasses quite a bit of territory especially when you are talking about a relationship between two people. In order to give you the best advice we can we need or I need a bit more specific information about the everything.
You say all he doe is ask you for money on payday. Is this something new or is has this always been part of the relationship? Is he less romantic, meaning is he taking you more for granted. Has your sex life changed? I don't need the particulars but has sex gone from 3, 4,5 times a week to maybe once a month. Things like this, just what has changes to make you confused about the relationship. Also has anything changed in his life recently? Has he changed jobs? Has there been a serious illness or death in his family?
If you would care to write ma in a private message answering these questions then I might be able to give you some meaningful advice. With the information you have provided the only advice I am comfortable in giving you is to talk to him.
Many times when a relationship goes on as long as yours has we reach a point of comfort in that relationship. While you may be looking to go out and paint the town red with him at night. He may have reached the point where he is comfortable just knowing you are there and watching TV or playing video games. This is a guess on my part as you had not provide enough information for me to make and observation with.
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Change can be for the better or worse. I assume you mean things have gotten worse in the relationship. Have you talked with him, letting him know what things in particular you have concerns about? Rules, expectations of each other and boundaries should have been set up at the beginning of the relationship. But its not too late to start now. This of course will take his input and cooperation and will change some dynamics of the relationship...hopefully for the better. If he fails to sticks by the rules and boundaries you both agree upon, then you will know it is time to dump him.
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