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How to make my first move?
Hi, so I catch this guy looking at me often but he never does anything. How do I make my first move since he doesn't? We're both in highschool and he's two years older than me so I'm a bit shy to approach him. We have spoken, so we're like acquantinces, to him but now we don't talk as much. Does anybody know how I can make my first move because I really don't know what to do and I have a crush on him and I really want to have a boyfriend (out of curiousity because I've never been kissed and whenever I like a guy an he likes me back it always tends to be a cheesy "relationship")
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The first move is to smile and say hello and use his name when you see him in passing. there doesnt need to be conversation at first. A smile means you are friendly and approachable. Next you hang out close enough to hear what he may be talking to others about and say, Hey i overheard you talking and . . . then you give your opinion or tell your related story. Or approach him when he's alone and ask open ended questions, ones he cant answer with a yes or no. Otherwise he answers and the convo dies unless you ask another question. the trick is to listen to what he says and find something in what he said, a point that you want to talk about next so he can learn something about you. At the end of the chat, you say you enjoyed chatting and would like to do so again. Ask if you can trade phone numbers.
Don't be surprised if he was afraid to approach you because you are younger. People tend to be very suspicious of juniors and seniors who go after freshmen and sophs. So he may be awkward approaching you or even accepting your offer of friendship due to what others will think.
I do have more thoughts to share on what you wrote if you care to read on.
You may have just stated your words wrong but it sounded like you want a boyfriend only for the reason of finding out what it feels like to be kissed? I hope not. One hangs out with and dates a person first to get to know them better than just the surface level attraction to find if you still like them after discovering more of their character and personality and what they stand for, believe in, their core values etc. During that time, either there's stuff one doesn't like and you break up, or you find you like that person on the inside too and develop feelings for them. This is the point at which a person shows how they feel by kissing, holding hands and putting an arm around each other and you go from the dating/info gathering stage to becoming a couple.
All teen girls have a natural desire for attention and approval from men as they hit puberty and their teens. Yes, attention is great but many boys your age learn quickly that they fool a girl that they really like her by saying or doing what they have discovered young girls want, in order to get what they want..sex. Try looking for a male willing to be a best friend first, a friend like a girlfriend but where at the same time you both can feel the attraction to each other that goes beyond friendship.
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