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I do not like my step dad. What do I do?
My step dad is really mean sometimes and is just always yelling. I tell my mom about this but she won't do anything about it.
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Honestly love can make people do crazy things like your mom ignoring you telling her how it makes you feel.. I'm sorry to hear this but the only thing you can really do is ignore it, or be super nice back and kill him with kindness.
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I'm sorry to hear about this and I wish I have had better advice then I do for you. Unless your step dad is abusing you, verbal abuse is also a type of abuse though it depends on what is said, there is not much you can do about this. More on this in a moment.
There are not a lot of men who are willing to marry someone that comes with a built in family so give this man some credit for stepping in and providing the basic necessities a child requires as well as what mom needs from a man.
Mom need love, companionship, someone that would help raise you and yes she most likely wanted a sex life as well. She is you mom her needs did not die when your dad left for what ever reason he is not with you. If your dad is not with you because of a divorce it is expected that you and your stepfather may not have the best of relationships. You might try being nicer to him, he is not the enemy and I'm sure he is not trying to take your fathers place in your life but to be responsible for you while you are in his home and care. If this is what I believe he is trying to be to you then work with him.
Now as to abuse. There are two types: Physical abuse where you are being hit or punched and include spankings with things other than a hand. This also includes sexual abuse. Then their is verbal abuse. This would include saying hurtful things to you.
If any of this is going on and mom refuses to do anything about it; you do have recourses and recourse. For physical abuse you can always call 911, use your cell phone. The police cannot be turned away until the interview you and actually see marks or don't see marks left by the physical abuse. If you can get out of the house run to the nearest police or fire station. These are safe havens for children.
If you are being verbally abuse talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal, Tell them of the abuse. Once informed they are legally required to make a report to child protective services and the police. You can also go to the nearest Police or Fire station and ask for help.
Yelling alone is not consider abusive unless it is constant and then it is a fine line.
I wish I had better advice for you but without more information this is the best I can offer. When you turn 18 you can leave and live where you wish. Until then if your parents are divorced you have to live where the courts order you to live.
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ok idk how old you are but im going to try to break this down for you as easy as i can.
there could be a BUNCH of reasons why she isnt doing anything about it. One could be: she doesnt want to be alone and is willing to put up with someone else belittling/yelling at you or her because her fear of being alone is THAT bad. She could be a dependant person and feel for (for her sanity) she needs a man in her life, which should never be the answer but unfortunately its like that sometimes.
Does he get violent with you when he does this? if so call the police and tell them to come over, or tell your mother that if your step father continues to act like hes going to get violent with you that you will call for her because your scared and you wanna look out for her and your safety.
She needs to HEAR from you that your concerned for everyones safety when he does this, and its NOT ok and she either needs to talk to him or you WILL call the cops. sometimes it starts out with just them yelling at everyone constantly, and it can lead to hitting and abusive behavior.
Another reason he could be yelling is because hes really not happy with you all and maybe you could talk to him in a calm manner and ask him if hes ACTUALLY happy be married and being here with you all. this will most likely really surprise him and he MIGHT actually open up to you and you might be able to get some honest answers. not matter what happens STAY CALM. People who are highly emotional and get angry and yell easily will just get more angry and can sometimes feed off of your anger, so dont fuel the fire if he cant control himself.
Bottom like try to have a serious conversation with your mom first while your both alone together about him and see what happens.
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