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Please Help a sister out!!!!
So me and my boyfriend have been together long distance for 7 months and he is finally coming in to celebrate my birthday with me. We've been talking about having sex and him figuring me and eating and me giving him a blow job and all that. But my problem is I have discharge. I wear a liner everyday in my underwear but it would be embarrassing to have to say before we do anything, "oh gotta take out my liner and clean". Like I don't know what to do, please give an answer!! Also, I know we are going to kiss, but I've never kissed anyone before... any advice on a first kiss. I'm excited but a little nervous because I've never done it before. PLEASE HELP A SISTER OUT!!! I COULD REALLY USE THIS ADVICE AND HELP!!!!!!!
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There is one kind of discharge that is daily and is normal for females. And there is another that is not.
If this is the normal one, you have nothing to worry about. All females come with a natural built in cleaning system, like your very own fragile ecosystem but things can happen to take it out of balance and that is when you have a problem possibly with a bad discharge.
The crusty or gummy residue on panties that is off white or light yellow, is normal.
You have good bacteria inside that kills off the bad bacteria and the fluid of this cleansing is working 24/7, never stops so there will always be residue in pantys and why wearing a panty liner is so great.
If you douche or wash down there with soap, you run a risk of killing off all the good bacteria in which case the bad bacteria takes over.
So if you have any burning or itching, redness, dryness accompanied with a terrible rotten garbage odor or fishy odor you may need to see a Dr to get antibiotics to get back to health.
This kind of thing, like bladder infections can happen to teens girls without ever having sex and is not a indication of whether she has had sex, so if you really do have an infection here, you can tell your mom and have her take you to the Dr. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, go to Planned Parenthood.
You are likely acquainted with what your sweat normally smells like. Females have their own musky scent. Finger yourself before each shower and smell, if its the same scent every day and it's not an infection, then that is your normal scent. Almost all guys love that scent. So you may want to ask him first if he likes it or if he'd rather have you go freshen up, he'll like you know and there's no reason to feel awkward about it. Some days my nose is kinda off and I think I detect an odd odor from me and I ask the husband if he smells something off and would like me to freshen up. He hasn't said yes yet.
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If I were you I would want to know where the daily issue with discharge stems from. Perhaps seeing a doctor for cause and to see if it can lessen is a good idea. You want to know what it is and why before being intimate with anyone.
If it's fine then tell your partner that you need to shower and excuse yourself to do so. That's how you can deal with the situation. As far as your last question try telling the truth and have him make sure you are comfortable.
I think you're trying to rush through all of this and need to slow down and be ready. So what if you haven't seen one another for 7 months? If you haven't even kissed you really shouldn't be rushing into intimate activity this fast. I think you should slow down for starters. It's evident the sexual stuff should be put on hold. You're not ready yet.
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