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Feeling awkward about him looking into my eyes during sex?
21/f
The guy I am dating and I have already had a conversation about what we liked in bed. We already discussed what we like most, what we can do to make things better, etc. But there is one thing that made me feel a bit awkward. He sometimes looks into my eyes during intercourse. I don't know why it makes me feel uncomfortable, maybe I'm just not used to it? I hear from a lot of people that guys don't usually do that and I have not ran into anybody who actually did that until now.
Is it normal to feel uncomfortable? Is there a way where I can get over the discomfort?
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A guys that looks into your eyes while
Kissing... Yeah that's awkward.
But during sex at times, It's hot to me :)
He might be turned on by it too.
If you don't like it, just close your eye's
& put your head on his shoulder
21/f
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Anything new to you can be uncomfortable the first couple times simply because you aren't used to it. Same here. I also would have to say that I have found that at times guys will want to watch your face or look into your eyes.
Since eyes are the window to our soul and for many, their relationship may not have developed deep enough yet to be ready to be touched at a soul level, it can feel awkward if you aren't ready to expose that part of you. Sex can touch your heart, your mind or your soul or all 3 as in this beautiful quoted I came across years ago. And it is so true:
Touch a woman’s mind-you get her interest.
Touch a woman’s heart—you get her love.
Touch a woman’s soul; you get passion beyond your wildest dreams.
Touch all three, you have a lover for eternity. (anonymous)
I think it's about you feeling vulnerable in this situation. If he's looking into your eyes, he may be the kind of guy who really cares about how you are feeling and wanting to really please you and love you. Too many young guys are still in the selfish stage, going after what pleases them but not ready to give to a female.
So give yourself time. Open your eyes to look at him for brief bits of time, like 3 seconds, then 5, then ten, and keep adding to it until you can find yourself looking at him. There are a lot of people who never experience sex at the soul level, where there is an exchange of each others energys and the sex is a heightened experience from regular sex. It may be this is what he is hoping to find?
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Looking someone directly in the eyes during Sex can be a very intimate experience and that's maybe what's making you feel uncomfortable.
I wouldn't say that guys don't usually do that. In fact I know from own experiences that they do.
It's OK for you to not want to stare at each other during sex. I know people who prefer to close their eyes or just not look at each other directly. Think about what exactly makes you feel uncomfortable. Is it that he's awkwardly staring at you? Or maybe it's that no guy has ever done that before and your not sure what it means? If it doesn't turn you off and you're just not used to this kind of intimacy, you shouldn't let it bother you. In fact you should enjoy it. He obviously enjoys looking at you! So take it as a compliment. He probably likes seeing the expressions on your face when your having Sex, so try to relax and show him how much fun your having.
Good luck !
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