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What now, 21 and unhappy
I struggled with depression. Will things ever get better? I cant talk to anyone but a therapist because I am afraid to reach out. I am missing out on life, last few year have been a lot of downs. I am unsure of myself. I have little confidence in myself. I was hopeful and even happy for a while but then things got messed up again. Why???? I don't get it. Can you help me because I feel like I got lost along the way.
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Wow. Really? people all pity party on themselves
For no reason piss me off. I'm your age & get itchiness on my face & lips tingling & sometimes by burning. I got tested for herpes but both results came back negative so idk wtf's wrong with me. & try moving out of state with your always drinking boyfriend and kid you two had recently. Then you live together & have the cops called & your kid taken away BC he got violent & he keeps drinking so you drink a bit. He goes to jail & you don't know anyone in this new state & your boyfriends mom doesn't givE a s*** about you BC her son keeps messing up. So you stay at a shelter homeless with all your things you have left while trying to get your kid back who the aunt wants to adopt. Take a walk in my shoes then whine about your life. Its so pointless to complain for no reason. I'm in a real s***** situation but I don't complain about it
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. While nobody can ever say they know how you feel because in truth your experience is unique to you, I can assure you that I relate to your life on some level.
First off, you say you are afraid to reach out. Well guess what, you have reached out in going to a therapist. For a lot of people that's one of the hardest things to bring themselves to do and it shows a lot of courage. It also shows that you are serious about making things better.
We all have ups and downs in our lives. It's kind of the nature of being human. The key is to make sure those downs don't prevent you from living your life in the territory of the ups.
Based on the fact that you say you are unsure of yourself, I would guess that much of your problem stems from self-esteem issues which can easily go hand in hand with depression.
I would recommend continuing with your therapist of course. Trying to take on step at a time in building your confidence might help. For example, focus on something you feel like you know how to do well and do it. Maybe then you'll be willing to try something you think you can do okay and try to work on improving your skill at it. And maybe eventually, you will be ready to take on things that you don't feel like you are very good at.
I often recommend at book called "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. In your case, while that may be helpful, I'd suggest his book "Ten Days to Self-Esteem."
You don't have to live like this and you can make things better. I'm rooting for you.
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A therapist isn't a doctor or a psychiatrist for that matter. I think you should find a psychiatrist and tell them that you cannot function, are afraid to reach out for help, are missing out on life and are having a lot of ups and downs lately. Mention the confidence.
Have them assess you and check out your medication. You might have been on medication before that seemed to work but didn't judging from your note. I think if you address all of the above issues that you will be on the path to wellness and success. Never be afraid to reach out. All that will happen is an abundance of options and help offered to you. That's how they work.
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