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22 year old need to grow up
I need help, I was put out my aunt and uncles house at 17. I am now 22. I've always had a problem growing up. I struggled with depression for as long as I could remember. I started to get myself together when I was 21. Had A Job Found A Room at But I Lost My Job And Was Still depressed. I find myself always being depressed and always hating them for giving up on me so I gave up on myself. I been jumping from family member to family member I'm depressed and lost. I'm currently unemployed and ready to just really give up this time.
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First of all, I am sorry to hear about the situation you've been going through over the course of the last five years. And while I have no idea what it is like personally to get thrown out of your home, I do have some insights into the issue of depression.
It seems like you've been trying but have ended up failing several times and this contributes to your cycle of depression. But, that doesn't mean giving up is the solution.
There is a quote by Thomas Edison that reads: “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
In fact, many, many people have tried and failed at any number of things many, many times but through persistence eventually succeeded in whatever they decided to go into.
To help you along the way to success, you can combat your depression with the help of online forums or local groups for people going through similar situations. And of course, don't be afraid to reach out to a therapist or counselor. If you can't afford it, there are programs out there that can help. And lastly, as I frequently suggest, either get a copy of or borrow from your library a great book by Dr. David Burns "Feeling Good."
Stay strong and don't give up.
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Having fought the battle with depression myself I understand how you feel and what you are going through. Giving up is not the answer, getting help for your depression will turn your life around. You may need to take medication for a while if so take the medication as directed everyday. The medication will help you feel better and lift the fog of depression so you can work better with the therapist to get at the root cause of your depression.
Once you find the root cause of the depression you can learn to deal with it and what the triggers are. No one is born depressed though it is a problem that is passed from parent to child. With proper support you can turn your life around and live a fulfilling life. The problem with depression is it is vicious circle. Depression cause us pain both physical and mental, the pain causes depression. You need to break the cycle. The medication and talk therapy will break that cycle.
Should you have no place to turn for help then call this Hot Line - 1-800-273-8255. It is the hot line for National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Since depression is the major cause of suicide these people are best prepared to help you. The hot line is available 24/7, it is anonymous and it is a free call. A trained volunteer will take your call and help you find people in your town who can help you.
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You mention being depressed but nothing about whether you've ever seen a doctor for it. If you haven't, thats the first step, there are lots of depressed people in the world and they were born like that. Their bodies don't produce enough of the NT's (neuro-transmitters) that their brain needs to be able to function at optimum levels...basically the term 'depressed' means that a persons level of NT's are depressed, or too low, not enough to be able to handle all the needs and pressures of daily life. This is what I call a chemically imbalanced NT level and doctors can help it with use of artificially made NT's for you to take.
Some people have bodies quite capable of producing enough NTs on its own but due to a variety of issues, they've let the levels drop and never done anything to raise them back up. The stress of not feeling wanted, family giving up on you, and the whole snowball effect of losing jobs, (likely the depression could be an issue there) all this and more will use up NT's like crazy leaving you totally empty. A car cant run on empty, neither can a human's mind.
I do have a list of ways that a person can raise their own NT levels. Those of us who do not have depression as a constant woe, will feel stress too that uses up our levels of NT's. There is no one immune to or able to avoid stress. Plus what is stressful to one person isn't to another or isnt in their lives. I have used a list I have on line to naturally up those levels which can only be done because I dont have the clinical depression of chemical imbalance born with.
Have a doctor check you out. If they say you don't have depression, you may want to try my list for depression. Just let me know. I must say its not my creation but it seems many psychologists know of it, my daughter went for one free visit through her job and told the guy she was still depressed months after a boyfriend left. Since it was just the one visit, he gave her the same list of things to do I told her about, she just didn't believe mom. Haha. I hope all is worked out and goes better for you. Let me know if I can help anymore.
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