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Parents fighting
So I have asked this question before but I left out details so the answers I got couldn't really help me. First off my parents fight a lot. They don't love each other never did and never will. My mom helped me dad become a doctor and she got married bc she thought she was becoming old and was never going to find someone. My dad married her bc of similar reasons. Anyways, my mom always helped my dad study while she worked her ass off as a pharmacist. At this time, my brother was about 2. Sometimes my dad got violent . Then I was born and he became a doctor. My mom stopped working and stayed Home with me. A couple years later my little sister was born. My dad sometimes used to get violent with my teenage brother bc he was a trouble maker and my parents took it out on each other. My mom only stayed with him for us bc we would be able to have wat we have if she divorced him. My mom constantly rants about eating healthy and watnat and sometimes my dad explodes. These are some examples of wat happened: my mom booked a really nice hotel room for two nights in San diego which is a couple hours away from us on eid(a Muslim holiday) so after we went to the mosque in the morning we planned to go to Starbucks then to San diego. At Starbucks my mom got my uncles friend to meet us there to give us an exclusive Lego for eid. My dad flipped out bc my mom interrupted him and hugged my uncles friend and they had a huge fight in the car. My mom (on the street) opened the car door and walked out. My dad kept driving. I yelled at him and (despite my brothers protests) got out of the car too and said I wasn't coming back in till we get my mom. Eventually my mom and I were back in the car and we ended up still you going to San diego even after wat happened . My mom ignored my dad. My dad apologized and stopped being a bitch ( for the time being) but they still fought the entire trip. Things extreme like this happen every couple months and in between its not that bad. But we can never do anything fun bc this happens. Like this week was my bday so my mom planned a little boat ride for our family of 5 and 3 family friends. My dad apparently wanted to have sex and my mom didn't which led to another fight so now my dad isn't going and I don't think my brother wants to go unless he's going. I hate this. Therapy didn't work and my parents want to get a divorce and then for like a month or two they don't bc everything's fine and then it starts all over again. It's a little scary sometimes. Bc my dad can get violent I feel like there's a bomb ticking over our family, ticking off the seconds until it obliterates everything in its wake. I don't no wat to do. I feel lonely especially bc my best friend just moved to Wisconsin and my other best friend is dealing with similar issues but we don't no wat to do and it makes it hard for me to focus in school bc like ideas or memories of family horror nights just PoP in my head.please help me but don't tell me to go to a school counselor . Thx
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
You can't solve your parents marriage issues for them. Of therapy hasn't worked and both are too chicken of being single again to actual break up for good, this is just going to continue.
If you do not plan to reach oout for help through someone local like school counselor or maybe even your Mosque leader, I have no other suggestions other than staying away from home a lot, hanging out at friends homes more and when at home, locking yourself in your room and putting ear plugs in to lesson the noise of fights and turn on your music to help drown out the rest of it..
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