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I need advice please!
I am an 18 year old girl from Edmonds Washington and I am going through a rather confusing time with this certain man that I am with. (he is 22) he is also a sailor in the navy. We have known each other for about 3 and a half months. I really like this guy, he is sweet and funny but i don't know if I want to continue seeing him. You see, he mentioned the military ball too me a few times and eventually he asked me to be his date. Of course, I was thrilled! I went through the trouble of buying the dress and the shoes to look good for him. On the day of the ball, when I was all dolled up, he called and canceled 20 before he was supposed to pick me up. Apparently he brought and reserved tickets from his friend but they were sold to someone else. Then I said that's fine and we were going to hang out instead but he never called me back.... Untill 3 hours later.... (8:00) he said that he fell asleep. We kinda made up over the phone but I don't know if I should continue too see this guy.
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The reason you feel uncertain about seeing him could be something other than the fact you didn't go to the ball and he fell asleep instead of calling back. I have ex navy in the family.(son in law) He's out now but I remember him being tired a lot too as a young. They're really worked hard. Do you know what his schedule is like, his shifts he works and time of day? That count account for falling asleep so easily.
At 3 1/2 months, I dont know how often you have seen each other, but I believe that unless a couple has a relationship where they practically most of their days out of the week seeing each other, it's going to be hard to have total trust in that person.
Someone like me late in life remarrying again, I had experience and knew what to look for so I could shorten the experience but even so, when we met, both our work schedules prevented us from seeing each other much but since we really felt we had the right person, we decided to live together to use what ever extra hours we could scrounge to spend together so things like trust could begin to build between us. Still together after over 5 years. I am not saying you have to move in with him, but being that he is in the navy, you will continue to have long times apart each time he's out on assignment on the boat. However you'll want to make good use of the times he is back at the base near you, and try to spend as much of 24/7 together as possible.
You might ask him if he can get contact info. for his boat on a support group for the wives and significant others of the navy men on that boat. My daugther was involve in that and they actual met often. It was helpful to have others who understand the things you face with such a relationship and also the experience of the other women to let you know what has worked for them.
Blessings!
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