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How to make older guys attracted to you
I've always been considered very pretty and I've always had lots of guys after me... just that they're all either my age, a year older or a year younger, whereas I have friends who aren't even that pretty nor interesting and they have guys that are 3 years older than them after them. Does anybody have any advice for me? Idk... I just feel insecure about this... I don't know why... (:
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While i DO agree with the first poster on many points here, i have to say that there ARE some differences because everyone is different.
I was 14 when i met my now husband. He was 21 at the time. we've only been married for about 4 years but in that time before we were married we had to learn alot about each other, more so than other couples who are the same or closer in age are/were. this is because we were both very intelligent but in different stages in life at the time. The main reason it worked out between US was because he was sweet and shy, and i was smart and tough (but sweet on the inside) and we both were patient enough to wait until we could be together and remain friends until that time. The secret here was that we were both on the same page about life and both had seen so many failed relationships and would talk about what went wrong with those people.
the main message here is maturity, intelligence, and attracting a guy (even if hes not older) by HIS maturity, and intelligence. If YOU act the way you would want a mate to act then you will attract someone of that same caliber. Then you can blow off any guys that are not that way. simple. ACT the way you think an older more mature guy would want his girlfriend to act. AKA like a lady, more mature, not catty or petty and arguing over the small things, and positive but humble. Carrying yourself with a sense of self confidence just by itself will have guys heads turning, and when they do smile at them as you breeze by them. ; )
finding a man thats on the same level as you mentally, and has himself together (life wise) AKA a job, a car, in school, has hopes and dreams and goals will give you all that you feel you need. he doesnt actually have to be OLDER, just grounded and realistic about life. good luck sweetie. ; )
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I wish you had put your present age in as it would make it easier to answer your question. Dating older men is not always the wise thing to do for several reasons, which I will get to in a moment.
If you are 18 and you want to date someone 21 that is not a problem. If you are 15 and want to date someone 18 or 19 this could cause a number of problems. The biggest problem with this scenario is a legal problem for the guy. If the boy is a8 or older and you are under the age of consent he can be arrested on a number of different charges. The biggest charge he would face is called statutory Rape. This is a felony and can carry prison terms as long as life in prison depending on the state.
Sex does not have to be happening between you and him for him to be arrested. All it takes is someone with a grudge against either of you to call the police and report him. Your parents could also make the report if you did not tell them you were dating an older boy. There are many reasons a 15 year old should not be dating someone 3 or 4 years older than her or himself for that matter. Just because your friends are doing it does not make it right.
While it does not appear that 3 years is a big difference in age. At your present age it is huge. A boy of 18 or 19 is far worldlier; I won't use the word mature for many 18 year old boys are not that mature, then you are. At 18 he has gone through all of the different aspects of dating and is going to go further than you should or would want to. This is how many teenage girls get in trouble, they are infatuated with the fact that a boy of his age is interested in a girl so much younger that they give in to him. Mostly out of fear of losing him though also because they have skipped over that period of time where they learn how to say no. When you are dating a boy your own age it is easier to say no and still keep him as boyfriend. For the simple reason of the fact that you are both feeling your way through this period of sex and dating and everything that goes with it.
I will be blunt here; what every young man wants from the time puberty hits him is sex. A boy your own age will settle, at first, for a hug and a kiss. Then as the two of you get more comfortable with dating and your sexuality he is going to want more. This is where you put what you have learned to use in fending him of if that is what you want and should be doing. You will not have the fear of losing him or being infatuated with someone older being interested in you.
Last; think about why would someone his age be interested someone your age. Simple answer is he is not getting what he wants from girls his age and can through infatuation get a girl your age to give him what he wants. It is really that simple.
Do not feel insecure over this. Instead feel good about the fact that the boys who are going after younger less pretty girls may know that you have a strong personality and will not put up with their pressures to get what they want from you. When it comes to teenage boys and sex think of electricity. They both follow the path of least resistance.
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