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My family is poor.. Help?
We don't live in a house, we live in an apartment. We aren't like totally poor or anything, but we're not rich either. My parents have good paying jobs I guess, but there's so many bills they have to pay. Possibly over a thousand dollars a month or something for different things. I'm not of age to work yet and I have bad anxiety, so I'm unable to work. I just don't know what to do. I can't get things I'd love to have because of money issues. I hate it. I'm not an ungrateful brat, we just don't have much money and I don't know what to do...
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In todays world, you are actually far better off than others. Lots of homes have two parents workings and still barely able to make it. They have enough to pay all bills but nothing left to set aside for emergency like a car repair, and something as important as dad needing to purchase a toilet repair kits for the broken parts inside the tank means they don't have enough now to pay cable, well, everyone goes through that. Unless you're born into a family who are millionaires, what you have for a living situation is what the greatest majority have. The only other possibility is being homeless, living our of your car or in doorways, carton boxes.No meals, no warm place when it's cold or raining, no place to lay down and sleep, no place to take showers, using bathrooms at gas station or fast food restaurants. Collecting change from passerbys to get together a whole dollar to by something off the dollar menu at a fast food place to eat your only meal in the last 2 days, having to wear dirty clothes cus of no way to wash them etc... Spend a little time hanging out with the homeless and you will feel you live like a queen compared to them. It's all perspective. And compared to some poorer countries, you aren't living in a hut with dirt floor, having to bed for money or as a child forced to work to bring in income just to have food. Water has to be collected and dragged back to your hut daily, washing clothes in a river, going potty somewhere outside not to mention no such thing as toilet paper. If you want a little of your own money to get things you'd like sometimes, well I was 15 when i started babysitting for neighbors and advertising to get more customers. My parents both worked and sometimes they saved up for a rare vacation but it was harder if they had to get anything i wanted. I saved my money well, mind you i got 75cents an hour and later a dollar. For years, I bought my own clothes, jewelery, makeup, going to movies, bought my own bike and when the parents couldn't afford to upgrade my 9 yrs younger sisters bike from the old banana seat type to 10 speed so she could keep up with us when we all bike rode, I bought her a bike. My parents even came to me to get a loan every once in a while to help them pay something and paid me back.
Think of something you like doing, or don't mind doing, that you could get paid for doing for a neighbor. It may not be big money and things are more expensive today. But you will learn valuable things when its your hard earned money doing the buying. Want your own computer or a new one? You will research at many stores, write down the brands, the prices and decide by what you see at a store that you like first...then going on line to seek out the best prices there and then save up for it. That means you;ll need patience, you'll need to save up for quite some time, no instant purchase the moment you begin to desire something. We are tight on money and just bought two new computers,on line at 200. each and these are Windows 7. Real nice. We buy foods at discount stores, dollar stores and Walmart and are able to feed ourselves for cheap. Going to movies? Nope...the cost to get in not worth it. We wait until it's available on line, purchase DVD for cheap at Walmart, Pawn shops have DVD's for cheap and check out some from the Library. No TV. Just watch em on the lap tops. And we are happy with that. hope this gives you some ideas and some encouragement.
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Don't take what I am about to say wrong for it is not meant in a bad way. There are people out there that might say you are being an ungrateful brat as you have far more than many others.
You have a nice place to live. You have nice clean clothes to wear to school. You have good food and all the necessities of life. That puts you far above a great many people. Many of whom may even be attending your school.
You are among the lucky children in your school whose parents actually have jobs. I'm sure you’re aware that over the last few years many parents lost their jobs and with it their homes, cars and much of everything they worked hard to get.
Your mom and dad are among the lucky to have jobs and work hard to provide you with the necessities and I'm sure when it is affordable they do provide some of the things you desire to have.
I can't tell you why your parents have so many bills. What I can tell you it costs a lot of money to raise a family and it costs money just to go to work. I was disabled while working and forced to retire. I was surprised at what it cost me to actually leave the house each week. I drove a company car with the company paying the expenses for the car. I thought my cost to leave the house could not be more than $5 to $10 a day. Was I surprised to see how much money we had at the end of the month almost double what we expected.
Every little thing adds up; you have medical bill, dental bill, insurance, rent, electric bills, food, clothing, haircuts, toiletries school supplies, college funds. It would be nice if there was a little money for mom and dad to have some together time as well.
The questioners’ information says you are 17. You are old enough to work; all you need is working papers from school. The anxiety problems you have should be treatable by your doctor at least well enough so you can function and work. If you find an after school job then the money you earn a portion should be set aside for college. The rest is you’re to spend on those things your parent cannot afford to buy you.
If you remember nothing else of what I have written remember this. YOU ARE FAR BETTER OFF THAN MANY OTHERS. SOMEONE OR OTHERS IN YOUR SCHOOL WILL BE SLEEPING IN THEIR CAR OR HOMELESS SHELTER TONIGHT WHILE YOU ARE WARM AND COZY IN YOUR BED.
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