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Lucid dreaming??
I've just recently started lucid dreaming again after five years. I'm a sophomore in high school now and the last time I had lucid dreams was fifth grade, BUT they stopped after I told someone about them. I want to talk about it with family and friends but I'm afraid that if I do, that I'll stop. Does anyone have any ideas on this? Thank you in advance for your responses! (Im kind of afraid that making this post will make them stop /: )
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I think the obvious solution is not to tell anyone because a) they may stop like last time and more importantly b) no one wants to hear about your dreams.
If you must tell someone a dream, social etiquette calls for it be told in two sentences or less according to Dear Matt.
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I believe I can see what you are saying. There is nothing like tension and unresolved issues, facing decisions and 'thinking too much' (anyting with a strong element of what we'll call 'conflict anxiety') to cause our subconscious minds to motor on after sleep. And create some very vivid dreamscapes in the process. The dreams may well not, on the face of it bear a direct resemblance to the coonflicts and issues themselves. That's very much the scrambled and 'coded' nature of them. Now, if in discussing the dreams it relieves some anxiety, defuses a little of the conflict then it will usually cause us to return to a the more usual pattern where dream activity is much less vivid and simply not recalled on waking. In effect, you'll 'sleep more easily' again. A bit of a catch 22 situation? We cannot either make ourselves dream or not dream or control the content and events like a movie director. And if certain issues are giving fertile ground for vivid dream activity then resolving the real life situations will usually make the dream activity reduce. Talking things through, getting issues and worries out into the light. Sharing them. Meeting them head on. These are communication. THE cornerstone of counselling, and have been shown over and over again to be powerful and effective therapy. Of course, vivid/lucid dreaming is in itself significant of nothing. Real issues can CAUSE us to dream more vibrantly but the dream itself is no kind of message, no prophecy or guidance and will not resolve anything. So if you want to enjoy them it might be an idea NOT to discuss them, or their content for fear of easing whatever tension might be causing them and thus, make them stop. If they're disturbing you then a good out in the open chat about the dreams, and anything that's on your (daytime, conscious) mind should help a little.
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Okay, first of all, this is like one of my number one rules for lucid dreams: Don't doubt yourself. If you believe they'll stop, they're more than likely to. Just tell yourself before you go to sleep: I WILL have a lucid dream tonight.
I also had the same 'problem' you did a while back. I would have have lucid dreams in fifth grade (Only a few times though :/), but they stopped after I started telling my mom about them.
Try writing down your dreams as soon as you wake up, this might help too. (Even write down the ones that aren't lucid dreams.)
And don't forget to 'check' to see if you're dreaming several times a day. If you don't know this method, just pull on your finger, and if it stretches, you're dreaming. If you're alone, you can also try flying, and if it works, you are obviously dreaming.
~Hope this helped!~
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