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freshman likes sophomore
We all sit on the floors in the hallway for lunch and i sit across the hall from this absolutely gorgeous guy and he is a sophomore while I am a freshman. We make eye contact a few times everyday but I honestly have no idea if he is interested or not. I'm fairly sure he doesn't have a girlfriend but any advice anyways? I'm really scared to talk to him... thanks for any help at all.
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Okay, you've got the first two important steps suggested, smiling and saying Hi. Those two things show an interest as far as surface level attraction. You and he both don't know enough about each other yet to know if you're going to like each other. the best way to do that is to become friends rather than just start dating and dating is where more of the fear and awkwardness is because the two really don't know each other.
So how to find a way to make a conversation opening statement, is to make comments or pay a compliment.
It can be the smallest thing, you think the shirt he's wearing is new to his wardrobe. Make a comment "Is that a new shirt for you? It's a good color on you. "Thats comment and compliment" If all you get is yes and thanks in response without more said, he may still be nervous and shy so on the topic of clothes use it to ease into other topics. Theres a trick to this, practice at home. Write down like a story what you might comment and what possible responses and how you find any word or topic to use in telling a short story to him. If you dont give up so easily, he will be more intrigued realizing you really have an interest in him and will start talking in response.
Using the clothing angle, "ask if he chooses his own wardrobe or the parents still choose for him. tell a story of something mom got you to wear once when you were younger that you thought was dorky ...any personal experience story that might make him laugh is a good thing.
You could say if you have a male brother or cousin who dresses way worse than him, that your brother dresses like a homeless person or something no sense of style like him. (another compliment. Since you mentioned brother, ask then if he has any siblings. Dont stop at a yes or no answer. with yes, how many? with no, you must be lonely at times. Or do you have any cousins that live nearby? He talks about cousins and you can share then that yours live too far away for you to see more often. Keep the conversation going in like manner until lunch is over. At the end tell him you enjoying talkng with him very much and would like to do it again. that leads up to exchanging phone numbers and social network site you use to keep in touch with people. dont get stuck there on line for long, just long enough to find if it seems u have something in common. Focus on the similarities for example both like swimming, ask if he'd like to go to the local pool with you on Saturday. Pick a time to meet there when a swim session is starting, take a bus, walk there if close, ask a parent to take you, and coordinate so if one has a parent giving a ride and the other does not, ask the other parent to pick up your friend to go to the pool. Good luck dear.
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If you are interested in him, I would strike up a conversation or just start out by saying hi to him when you see him. However I would feel him out first before you show any signs of interest other than friends. If you start talking first, you can feel him out and if indeed he does turn out to be interested then you can come on a little note strong by asking him to hang out if he doesn't take the initiative to make the first move.
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I understand you are scared to talk to him but the best way to do it is by talking to him. maybe you could smile and say hi to him, ask him for his number or any contact. Tell him how you admire him and maybe ask him out to the movies.
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