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my sister never takes no for an answer
My sister never takes no for an answer and sometimes it gives her a feeling that she is allowed everything and everyone must do whatever she asks. Like she never handed me a shoe to kill a spider even if she was next to one and she expected me to kill a spider and another she never let's me in her room and whenever she wants to borrow my clothes and I say no becaude you never return any favors she gets mad and slams my doorand pulls huge sissy fits. What can I do? I hate fighting but the sense of authority she has is mind-blowing and it makes me feel like she never gives me any respect.
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What you two have is a bad case of sibling rivalry. You both want the other to respect you and to accede to your wishes. The older of the two of you may just be jealous of the attention the other gets from your parents. All of this is unfortunately quite normal and will go away as you both become adults and have families of your own. At least most of the time.
If you are twins this would not be normal. Twins by and large are much closer than most other siblings. Stemming from sharing the same womb and possibly the same egg. Generally twins do not suffer from sibling rivalry.
When it comes to respect this is something that has to be earned, even between family members. In general terms you have to give respect in order to get respect. From what you are writing neither of you are giving so neither of you are earning the others respect. One of you is going to have to make the first move and give some respect to other.
I will assume you are the younger of the two. If so can you be the bigger of the two and give your sister some respect. She deserves a bit of respect just because she is older but can you give a bit more. Then by doing so, by being the bigger person and giving her respect; Wait and see if after getting respect if she doesn't return it to you.
This is how respect work. If you want it you have to earn it. There are times respect comes with the territory, such as being a Police Officer or an Officer in the Military. In these instances it is the uniform not the person in the uniform that gets the respect. The person in the uniform still needs to earn respect.
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Let me guess....she's a teen too? I had three girls and when they hit puberty and for quite a few years after, due to the hormones, they were touchy and sensitive emotionally. That means easily irritated, or gets angry and upset often for no reason or silly reasons. Yes, there could be some of her personality that would be irritating not only to you but others too, however it is even harder to handle during your teen years. Just know that this doesnt last forever.Eventually you both will outgrow this stage. In the meanwhile let mom know how you are feeling. She went through this at your age too and understands what its like. When you feel you need to blow off some steam, and if mom is willing to be your listening ear, just tell her how you are feeling. Sometimes that is enough to diffuse things, but if she knew that you both are going through the hormonal bickering thing, she can also step in and act as a buffer and help you both to settle disputes and help to keep the peace.
Good luck!
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