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How to get a door?????
So I'm a 13 year old girl and my bedroom doesn't have a door..... I feel like I have a lack of privacy. All that covers the entrance to my room is a thin see through curtain. I already share the room with my sister, so that's already one person who has the right to barge in, but my brothers and parents do it too! I'll be getting dressed or something and then they'll just shove right through the curtains. It's incredibly annoying. How do I ask for a door with a lock or at least a curtain that's not see through? I'm always afraid to ask for things because we just moved to this house (and I know that houses cost a lot. and I have so many siblings (which leads to more expenses) and I'm afraid that I'm being too expensive. I Harley ask for anything though besides notebooks to draw in (I don't even have a cell phone because I'm afraid to give my parents anymore bills). So how do ask? And since I ask for do little, do you think they'll say yes? (Oh and just a quick bit of extra info: I'm usually that "forgotten" child whose desires fall through the cracks, so I'll need a really good way of asking) Thanks!!!!
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I should think you would not be asking too much for a door with a lock and they are not that expensive, and certainly in relation to the price of a house. Point out to your mum that at 13 a bit of privacy is more an essential than a luxury. There must be many a handyman who could source and fit the door at modest cost. Or your father, brothers helping maybe? Though not all blokes are good at building and carpentry!! Maybe mum is, or could be? Patience and attention to detail are quite often the key to modest do-it-yourself jobs around the home (not suggesting folks try their hand at re-roofing or installing central heating of course...but a door is much less daunting!). I understand that if cash is bit tight at present you might not be happy about asking for that phone for instance, which would possibly be quite an expensive purchase and as you point out, can quickly and easily run-up possibly huge bills for airtime and data-handling. This might be a bit of leverage? You aren't asking for something for entertainment, you appreciate that you can live without it. (Which will show a nice bit of maturity on your part, compromise and not hankering after instant gratification and amusement are pretty adult behaviour mate!) But a bedroom door would be nice! So you can just crash out, relax and enjoy yourself without being interrupted and disturbed. Good luck...and don't push too hard for an instant result...sometimes adults might have to say "they'll think about it next month". If there's a big bill (maybe home or car insurance?) this month cash can get pretty tight until the next salary payment rolls in...it's a fact of life sometimes. Give it a try. You need a bit of private 'me-time' at your age and they'll appreciate that. X
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You must be the middle child. You are not the forgotten child you are just the child that does not beg for attention as much as you’re older and younger siblings do. There is an old saying; "that it is the Squeaky well that gets the grease." Your problem is you don't squeak.
As to your question: This is a question you need to take up with mom. I wouldn't ask for a door with a lock on it since you share your room with your sister as there is the possibility of locking her out of her own room. Not that you would do it purposely but it could happen. You just ask for a door that could be closed so you can have some privacy to do what teenage girls do. If I remember correctly from my sister is spending time trying on different outfits, experimenting with hair styles and makeup. Having girl talks with her friends all of which beg for more privacy then the curtain provides.
You tell mom that you feel you have to get dressed in the bathroom so you can so without your brothers barging in and catching you in some state of undress and it is embarrassing. That there are times when you would like to go to your room just for some quiet time maybe to do homework, reflect or write in your diary.
Since you seem to feel you are the forgotten child I would suggest you ask mom for some mommy and you time. A trip to the mall one day for a hamburger or a slice of pizza is a good inexpensive way of some mommy and you time. If she agrees this is when you make your request for a door.
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