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My co-worker told me he had a dream that I kissed him.
Let me start from the very beginning(which will be very long) There's a co-worker who has shown interests in me or at leas that's the way I read it.It started one day when He asked if I had a boyfriend, what he was like and what kind of dates we went on.Then one day I upset because on old crush of mine contacted me on facebook and things didn't go well.This co-worker hugged me, kissed my hand, caressed my cheek, told me I was beautiful and special.A few weeks went by and he didn't really show anymore signs until one day during break he told me that another co-worker said that I was the perfect girl for him, and that he should take me out for dinner.A couple days went by and one night when I was leaving, I tripped over a chair, He ran up to me and asked if I was okay.I told him, I was having an unlucky day, he then told me I needed a boyfriend to unbreak that luck, he asked me how old of a guy would I date.Then eventually offered lunch.Scheduled a get to gether, but he had to cancel because his brother had a heart attack.We never rescheduled because we both got busy, few weeks went by and he didn't really show anymore interests.Until last week he brought up my old crush again, asked if I still contacted him.Told him no, that I don't talk to that guy anymore.He then went on to say how he had a similar issue.
Tonight I was leaving and he was upstairs on break, I had to wait for my ride so I sat down.He asked when my days off were and I told them.Then he told me how he sent me a friend request on Facebook, and we discussed games.I pulled out my phone to text my ride.And he started laughing, I thought he was laughing at me texting "I was like what?" He said nothing, but kept laughing and I responded "Are you laughing at me texting?" He was like "what?" and kept laughing.Finally I said "What is so funny!" He then said, "Well last night, I had a dream...about you" I was like "About me?" and he responded "Yeah, you were sitting texting like you are now, and I knocked on your door, you let me in and we sat and talked and had a good time, then you kissed me.I told you I loved you and loved working with you, and that you were a hard-worker, and you told me you enjoyed being with me too"
I felt really strange hearing this.Why would he say something like that? Do you think he made it up just to get a kick out of seeing my reaction?
Prior to this random outburst of laughing, when i told him that I had my old crush blocked he was like "Good, keep him blocked!" lol
Was he trying to hint he wants to kiss me or likes me?
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Ditto on the fact that it is extremely obvious that he is interested in you. You need to decide if you are interested in him as well and if him being any older than you is okay with you. I am betting since he asked about what age guy your ok with that he must be significantly older.
Also, I'd like to point out that He can state whatever he wants at work, but until you really get to know him and meet his family and close friends, you won't know if this guy is truly single, in a committed relationship or married and therefore trying to cheat with you. So just a warning to not let yourself fall for him too quickly until you really get to know if you can trust this man.
Also, I don't question that he actually had this dream, it's very likely since he's crazy about you. All his dream proves is that he thinks he is already in love with you. Love at first sight can happen but it is very rare...I wouldn't count on that yet. What I have an issue with is him thinking that you are close enough friends to share this kind of thing with. It is quite unfair to share any dreams of the future or even lets say some messages that a psychic gets about the future. If God tells them but says to not tell the person, then some things are better kept to oneself. His eagerness to share that tidbit makes me believe he is trying to think of anything he can do to tip the cards in his favor and get a positive encouraging response from you. So far you have talked and answered his questions but apparently not given him any signals whether you are interested in him only as a coworker, a close friend or interested in him romantically.
You have every right to feel odd or uncomfortable hearing details of this dream.
My guess since you've written us is that you are not totally repulsed by him, otherwise you would have totally ignored his hints and advances and flirting. But he has your curiousity up and you at least want to get to know more about him to see if you might actually like him. Just remember my warning to take things slow, dont get involved sexually until you are 100% sure there is no wife or girlfriend. I know too many cases of guys trying to pick up a girl at work cus its easy, an office romance can spice up his life if he isnt happy with his wife or girlfriend, and its less likely she'll find out.
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Are you interested in this guy at all? It may not be easy for you to tell, but for someone on the outside, having read your description of the situation, it's PAINFULLY obvious that he's interested in you. It sounds like he could have made up a lot of these things or exaggerated them. It just doesn't sound genuine, it sounds desperate. The real question though, is whether or not you are interested in him. I would think that if you were, you'd be dating him by now with as aggressively as he's going after you. If you are interested in him, girl, quit acting clueless and go for it! If you're not interested or you're not sure, quit acting clueless. If you're really not interested in him, what he's doing is actually pretty disgusting. He's taken this way overboard and is verging on creeper status. You either need to date him, or tell him to stop. You shouldn't just go with the flow and continue feeding his hunger for you. It could get out of control and create a lot of pain for the both of you. You may feel like it's the right thing to do to be nice to him, but it isn't. The more you allow him to build up his hope and feelings for you, the worse it's going to be when you finally do have to reject him. Figure out what you want and assert yourself. Be direct. Tell him you want to date him or tell him that you're not interested and he needs to back off. If he doesn't, you need to threaten to report him to your company for sexual harassment (and then actually follow through if he continues). This is actually kind of a serious issue if you're not interested in him. Good luck and quit acting so submissive and clueless. It may be nice to get his attention, but allowing him to go this far could become dangerous.
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