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Is it time to move on?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. And lately I want to meet new people. I went out the other night and called someone to meet me at a club which was a guy I had met on a dating app and this was my first time meeting him. And I wanted nothing to do with him...I wanted to meet him and see what I wanted but I broke my own heart.. All I wanted was my boyfriend and I didn't want to be around the guy anymore. But even still my head wants me to wander and live and meet new people but my heart is comfortable and only wants my boyfriend. My boyfriend doesn't even know I've been feeling like this and I don't have the heart to tell him because I truly love him so much but I'm very confused and can't help but to cry, and I never cry, but I'm just so confused. Someone please tell me anything...Thankyou!
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Oh dear! Honey,take a breather.
You need to be honest with him.
Decid truely if really want to part ways or stay.
I cant guarantee what the outcome will be
But I do know what you want is happiness
If you want to split with your boyfriend,tell him why.Im unsure if you want to ask him,if you both can take a break.It can be a good or bad thing.
Your heart is comfy with your boyfriend,and thats whats causing this gut in you to cry.
Be blessed and make the choice thats right in your heart!
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umm well I think yes it is time to move on. see the fact that you're feeling this way means that things with you and your boyfriend aren't exactly how they were before. if you were truly in love with him you wouldn't be in this position and you wouldn't want to explore. something's missing in your life right now and your current relationship isn't fulfilling that empty space. the reason why you thought about your boyfriend when things didn't seem to be working with the other guy is probably because your boyfriend has become like a safety net for you. probably what you feel with him is not love but just a sense of comfort. so I say talk to him about it, he deserves to know, cause see if the tables were reversed you would feel betrayed in a way if he didn't tell you right? but this is just my opinion you could agree or disagree. though the right thing would be to be honest. Best of luck! hope it all turns out well for you
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There will be times in everyone's life when the grass on the other side of the fence looks greener than the grass on our side of the fence. Sometimes we sneak over to the other side of the fence only to find the grass is not any greener and may be just crabgrass. When and if we do something like this, we gain little and lose little if anything.
I know what I have written above does not truly answer your question, no one can only you can. You have only supplied part of a puzzle, how long you have been with your boyfriend. You have left out information such as how old you are. If he is your first true boyfriend? Do you live together and other important facts that would give a clearer picture of your situation. Even then it may not be possible to say for certain what you should do. Here again we will still only be looking at a snapshot of your life.
From the little information you have given what I believe is: You are young; he may or may not be your first boyfriend but you have not had too many before him. You love him but you are also afraid you may be missing out on something, someone. Frankly this is very normal and guys go through this as well. It is directly a part of the grass is greener theory I spoke of.
I know you're confused we all get that way when we reach this point in a relationship. The questions we ask ourselves are: Am I making the right choice? Is this the person I want to spend the rest of my life with? Will I be happy, and more questions. As I said this is all normal.
I do not think anyone can answer these question for you or tell you whether to stay or go. Something must have happened to make you think of leaving beyond the normal? You have not said what that might be beyond wanting to meet new people.
Is there some reason why you cannot meet new people, not just men, and remain in this relationship? If the answer is yes then maybe you should consider leaving. IF the answer is no then maybe all you are having is normal fears everyone has with some relationships that look as if they may be lifetime commitments.
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