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I want a dildo or a vibrator
Hi! Befor u get all upset about my question I just want to say that I have been masturbating for about 2 years now, and I want to ask my mom for a dildo or a vibrator but she will start to freak out and yell at me so how do I ask with her not yelling at me? Please help! Ps I am 12
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You have asked a very good question. You are most likely correct if you go to your mother and ask her to buy you a vibrator she will freak out. Why she will freak I cannot say? Why parents don't want their children masturbating is a long story. Shortened to the Readers Digest version is parents believe that if children are told it is okay to masturbate it will lead to full on sexual intercourse.
Possible yes but more likely it will keep children from venturing into full sexual intercourse as they can relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty at home in the comfort and confines of their bedroom. In fact it is hypocritical of most of us parents to say anything against masturbation to our children for most of us did so as children.
In fact according to a recent survey 85% of the population masturbate. In a family of 4 this would mean 3.4 members of the family masturbate. Your parents masturbate if only during foreplay which is called mutual masturbation.
Masturbation in young teens is healthy for it allows for a safe way to relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty, especially in the early stages of puberty. In the early stages of puberty the new hormones are going to cause the teenager to have more sexual tension then in later years as the body adjust to the hormones of sex. Hence the term horny.
Masturbation is safe and convenient as it can be done in the confines of one's bedroom, shower or bath. For a teenage girl masturbation allows her to withstand the advances of young males who are also looking to relieve sexual tension.
Have I addressed your question? In a manner of speaking I a have. I have provided you with reasons why mom should buy you a vibrator. To just ask mom for one probably won't fly. She will most likely give the parents story of masturbation being a sin, it is not in any religion. It may not be condoned but it is not a sin. She may give you the old wives tale of going blind or growing hair in the palm of your hand, not true also.
You have to go to your mom with mature reasons why she should buy you a vibrator. The fact that 85% of the population masturbate is a good start. This was found in a recent sex survey of people ages from teenaged through 65 years of age. Sexual tension, like all tension must be relieved and masturbation is the best way for young people to do so. No teen has ever become pregnant form masturbation.
You are going to have to be prepared to argue your case to your mother. When I say argue I do not mean yelling, I mean calmly explaining with facts researched to explain your point.
The alternative is to find an older person to purchase one for you and then hide it from your mother. This is a solution I do not support for mom will find it and them you will have an argument over it.
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Since you have to be a certain age to purchase one at a sex toy store, you have very little options but talking to mom. Tell her you have something to talk to her about puberty and sex. Tell her that you've been dealing with the sexual urges already for two years as you told us and that you would like to have a vibrator or dildo to take care of those urges. She may have or may not have had urges at the same age as you. And depending on her personality, she may have masturbated or not. But what she did shouldn't be the standard for you.
Its a perfectly normal function so there's no reason for mom to get upset and yell at you. If your mom tends to yell often for any situations and gets upset easily, she may not be the best person to ask. In that case, ask an aunt of yours to talk to her on your behalf. My daughters at times growing up would talk to their aunt before talking to me because since she wasn't directly the mom, she would be more likely to be understanding and not over react and talk to mom for you.
If your mom is pretty open minded and a calm person normally, this shouldn't be a problem.
Sometimes a parent can be caught off guard by such a request and may respond a bit more surprised and sharp tone of voice due to being unprepared to hear such a thing.
If mom is seeming to over react, then you can always say you are trying to be responsible and not go to boys to have sex or have sex with girls so you dont get pregnant cus the thought of that doesnt sit well with you. Thats why you are trusting her as mom to be supportive and help you so you don't have to turn to using alternative objects as dildo's which could increase your chances of get ting an infection.
Good luck dear.
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