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Fml I feel so used after I had sex with my ex
Basically like 3 days ago I had sexual intercourse with my ex honestly I feel fucked up I feel like he's only nice to me till he gets what he wants and I'm the biggest idiot ever to go ahead and have sex with him. I feel used and hurt right now cause I know he doesn't want anything serious.. It's like whenever we speak it's sexual. We've been friends since we ended like over 2 years ago but we've only had sex twice since the breakup I honestly don't know what to do cause I feel like I'm emotionally and physically attached I feel so used I wanna cry cause I knew what I was getting myself into I don't know what to do
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The best thing you can do is move on. It's not going to be easy but it'll be worth it. You are worth way more than just sex. He knows you'll give him what he wants so he takes advantage of it. You will slowly start getting detached the less you see him and the more you think about what you deserve. It's nothing wrong with crying girl. Cry as much as you can then NEVER cry over him again!He's not worth your tears. Good luck and keep your head held high <3.
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Your EX is the ass as he see's you as a friend with benefits that when all else fails and he horny he can go to. To me this make him an ass for he is using you because he knows you are still attached to him.
Anyone that uses other people for any reason sexual or otherwise is the person that is screwed up. Yes you have the right to feel used because you have been and that is wrong but not of you. It is easy to say you have to stop allowing him to use you, it is harder to actually do it. We all know what it is like to be physically and emotionally attached to someone who doesn't want us.
Separating ourselves from someone both physically and emotionally is sometimes more than a person can do on their own. You have had two years to do so and still remain emotionally attached to him. I believe you would benefit from seeking the help of a counselor to help you find the reason why you cannot emotionally cut yourself from him. Your employer or your parents employers medical insurance may have an EAP program. This program will allow you a certain number of visits, generally fully paid for, to a psychologist for help with problems like this.
There is no shame in seeking this kind of help. Until you fully cut the ties to this guy you will never be able to have a full and rewarding relationship with someone else. These visits are totally confidential. No one but you and your therapist will ever know what is discussed.
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When a person wants the sex and a friendship but not a serious relationship as far as having strong feelings like love, it's disappointing if the other wants commitment along with the sex.
It is normal to have needs for sexual release and after a while, for some people, masturbating just doesn't cut it anymore. If the person isn't ready to become seriously emotionally attached in a relationship but wants sex, that is actually quite normal and its in my opinion a very good option for a person who hasn't found Mr. Right yet or Ms. Right yet, to be upfront that you are comfortable with the other person and like them well enough as a friend and that you would like to be a friend with benefits. As long as both are upfront about it in the beginning, there is nothing wrong with that. I did that several times when I got divorced as I dated before meeting my 2nd husband.
Dont beat yourself up about having sex with him after a breakup. You have your needs too. And he is a known quantity, you know what the sex is like, and can trust he wont physically hurt you sexually or doesnt have any STDs, etc.
If you are still harboring hope that he might fall in love with you if you give him sex, you need to change your thoughts cus thats not going to happen. Start looking for Mr. Right and realize that the ex is just for taking care of your sexual needs until you find the right guy.
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I totally understand and get what you're going through. I had basically the exact same relationship with my ex which thankfully ended about 8 months ago.
First, I want to let you know that you are WORTH IT and SPECIAL. It's very normal to feel the way you're feeling about him. You like being around him- it's comforting knowing that he's there. And you're obviously still attracted to him which is why you go ahead and become physical. Part of the reason you keep going back to him is that you still haven't accepted that he doesn't want you as something serious. Part of you has a little hope that maybe, just maybe, things could change.
What I'm telling you shouldn't come as a shock. You already know this. He will not change his mind. It doesn't matter how lucky he is to be with you. A guy like him only wants you for one thing.
Let me tell you, a guy who wants you to be his girlfriend will do everything to make you his. And one day some guy will come into your life and be everything that your ex isn't. He will appreciate you for the wonderful, beautiful girl that you are and will tell you all the time how lucky he is to be yours.
Right now, I encourage you to seek out a healthy relationship. Know that loving yourself and having a good support system help with stuff like this. Wishing you the best of luck!
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