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Neighbor is a bully
I have an elderly neighbor who feels that he needs to dictate what everyone does with their property. Once he tried to have my truck towed because he didn't like it parked on the street. Now he called the city inspector out to look at a car under my carport. It didn't have up to date tags. I'm on a budget and expecting my first child in Sept. So yes, I didn't update my tags but thought the car would be fine under my carport on private property. This man has been a bully for years to other neighbors. How can I deal with this ignorant man?
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The other two advisors gave some good advice. I can only add that you could call the county or city department of aging and talk to them about him. His constant nagging on neighbors could be he is lonely and this is his only way of getting attention.
The department of aging should come out and evaluate if he is still capable of living on his own, if he does live on his own as you do not say. Whether or not he is suffering from any form of dementia as well as the condition of his home.
Once he is visited by the department of the aging they can arrange for a variety of services such as meals on wheels, shoppers to do his shopping and house cleaners to help with cleaning his home as well as other services he may need. If all he is, is lonely these services should keep him from getting lonely and help divert his attention other places.
We had a very nice lady living in our neighborhood. She started to become the neighborhood busybody. As it turned out when this started she was in the early stages of some form of dementia. While she was able to live on her own her children let her. When it became apparent she could no longer live on her own and she was becoming a nuisance her children moved her to a nursing home.
I'm not saying this is the problem with your neighbor all though it may be. The department of the aging should be able to make that determination or ask the department of mental health to make it for them.
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As difficult as it is sometimes - try to have compassion. Maybe he is cynical because he's had a hard life. Try getting to know him, bake him a diabetic pie (so he can't complain about sugar) or offer to help him with yard work our odd jobs. Show him you are a good person, ask him for advice for how you should make your lawn look, or certain aspects of your property. Be kind and compassionate to him. I am unsure of his situation, but so are you and possibly everyone else. Instead of making assumptions and both of you dwelling in misery from one another, try to get to know each other, and be compassionate or at least know how to act considerably with one another. Positivity always beats negativity in the long run. Good luck.
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Have you tried confronting his bullying? Ask him what his problem is. Aside from drawing attention to the out dated tags, as long as you are breaking any city laws, his complaints won't amount to anything. He may just be old and bitter and there isn't much you can do to change him if that is how he is. Just do your best to ignore him, or kill him with kindness.
~Best of Luck!
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