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should I try to get him back?
Ok..I dated this guy for a couple of months but he was 6 yrs older than me..I'm 16..we were first just friends but then we began to "love" each other. I would go by him everyday but we never did anything really..then we almost did and I stopped him...he got a bit mad at me. He said he didnt want to date me now at 16 because he didn't want me to do things that were not right..we didnt talk for awhile...then he called but we are sort of awkward friends now...I still like him though and i told him but he said he dont want to destroy my life. Should I get back with him? If yes how?
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am 17 and believe me i know how you feel, i know the feeling that he might be your soulmate and what if you lose him forever and the tought that if in the future that 6 year difference is not gonna matter what is the problem though, but i have seen many teens like you knocked up by this kind of guy and pregnant right now, and i don't think that you want to be like that ,do you? and this guy controlled him self after you stoped him,thats great beacuse he is matured than you and he relized its wrong. you just have to let it be like that so as not to face those bad consequences and think about your future too, i really wish you do the right thing!!!
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For me, I wouldn't go back for the guy! Here are the reason why:
1. You are way out of his age. He is 6 years older then you. So he's 22. He can maybe bring you to do things that you cannot do at your age. You are real to young to go out with an adult. You never know, if he wants to have sex, or do this and that to you. You have to be careful
You're way too young to do these things.
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To be brutally honest there are two things wrong with this relationship.
1. It is illegal and he could go to jail just for being with you. Nothing sexual has to take place it is assumed and he would or could be charged with statutory rape. In many states this charge could earn him anywhere from 5 years to life in prison depending on what state you live in.
You are a minor and under the age of consent. He is 6 years older than you and an adult. These are the qualifying reasons justifying the charges. If you two ever crossed a state line together he could also face federal charges of violating the Mann Act which could also earn him a life in prison sentence.
2. There is something wrong when a 22 year old dates 16 year olds. The first thought that jumps into my head is pedophile. He may not be, he may be one in the making. It doesn't matter you are in danger when there is this great an age difference at your present age. If you were 26 and he 32 that would be a different story but neither of you are those ages.
My advice is if your parents are not aware of the age difference or not aware you are dating this man you tell them so that they can decide if they want to take any appropriate action. You have been luck he did not hurt you. The next girl your age or younger may not be so lucky.
DO NOT SEE HIM AGAIN, DO NOT TALK TO HIM AGAIN. IF HE CONTINUES TO TRY AND CONTACT YOU CALL THE POLICE.
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At the moment it seems like you would consider rekindling your relationship the ultimate happy ending. In reality it is not. Why? Because true love has to consider what is best for the partner and the integrity of what once was a good relationship. Dating him at this age can put him in great trouble. At this point you need to use the love you have for him to keep him out of that trouble. For his saftey set your sights on trying your best to forget him and move on.
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No. He's right. An age difference of 6 years isn't a big deal when you're in your mid-20's or older, but at your age it's too much. Any guy that is 22 that would want to be with a 16 year old, no matter how mature she was to talk to or how much he liked her, has something wrong with him. It's natural for a 16 year old to fall in love with someone older, but it's just a crush and is NOT a good idea for a relationship. He's too far ahead of you in life for the relationship to be meaningful or balanced. Stop trying to pressure him into it and move on. We all have that older guy that we fell in love with when we were young. Let him be that and that only for you. If when you're 22 and both of you are single maybe it's worth a shot, but for now, you're not ready for him yet. You're probably going to disagree and you probably don't understand why, but just trust me on this. You don't want to push him into being with someone who is too young for him. Good luck.
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Girl, baby girl...BE THANKFUL the guy didn't knock you up...like "GET WITH CHILD" and yes he'd be in jail...Because your jail bait...GET IT!!!! run don't walk to your room...NO DONT GET BACK together with him, THERE IS NO FUTURE...where the hell are your parents? keep your legs crossed, trust me a ruined life and two o clock feeding are no fun...while your girlfriends go to parties...GET ON THE PILL IN CLOSING STUPID GIRL, " SHOULD I GET HIM BACK' HE DOESNT WANT YOU, TRUST ME HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND, YOUR JUST A SLIT TO POKE...AND AGAI BE THANKFUL THE PERV DIDNT DO IT, HE KNOWS BETTER, HED BE A SEX OFFENDER FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE, NOW GO CLEAN OUT YOUR SOCK DRAWER, AND LEAVE OLDER MEN TO THEIR WIVES
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