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How can you love someone but not want to be with them.
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This is a complicated question but I'll try to give you a reasonable answer.
When we talk about love, most of us think of it in terms of a romantic relationship. But in truth, there are lots of different kinds of love and ways to love one another.
For example, people donate to the homeless and in doing so show love for those in need. However, that doesn't necessarily mean they would want that person coming into their home.
When it comes to romantic love specifically, sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to let them go. If you can't be there for them due to distance or other challenges, or if you feel like you might be limiting them from reaching their full potential for happiness in some way, nothing could be more loving than to walk away.
Life is complicated and love is at the very foundation of our life experience. So in some cases, love does not require people to be together at all.
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I second everything britZ67 said. There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
On top of that, there is different types of love.
I mean you love your family and friends differently than you love a boyfriend or girlfriend.
You may care for someone a lot and love them, but only love them as a friend.
You may also really truly love someone but don't want to be with them because of the incompatibility. Your values might not be the same.
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Interesting question, my dear. Two things: you can love someone or you can be IN love with someone.
If you love someone (but don't want to be with them) can mean that: you enjoy their company, deeply care about them, you want to consistently to be in their life, you are willing to be there for them, etc;
Now, if you love someone but don't want to be with them, tells me that you are not romantically and sexually attracted to them. This could be because: you two aren't compatible in that manner, you don't have that 'romantic' chemistry, you cannot picture a future together, you are incompatible when it comes down to values and interests, etc;
When you are IN love with someone...you see this person as more than a friend; a partner. You have romantic/sexual chemistry, you want to be loyal to this person, and you would not want to be 'just a friend'.
In short: You can love a friend, but if you do not want to be with them, then you are not IN love with them. You only love them as a friend.
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