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How to make him feel better
My boyfriend sacrificed 2 years focusing on soccer. He wants to be a soccer player. He was on a soccer camp to prepare for this huge tryout that he had been dreaming in getting. His very upset. What can I tell him to make him feel better?
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RAINHORSE68 is correct; "You are only a loser if you quit." Keep reminding him of that. There are two types of people in the world; “Those who fail to plan and those whose plans fail.” Your boyfriend had his plan fail this does not speak badly about him. At least he had a plan, he worked his plan and something beyond his control let him down. That does not mean he failed. IN this instance someone failed to see his ability and they failed him.
What you have to do is be supportive. Remind him he can try again. Many Olympians and World Athletes do not make teams on their first try. You keep trying; you keep improving your skill until you make the team.
He needs lots of TLC at the moment. Though he might need a strong kick in the pants soon if he falls into a self-pity and refuses to pick himself up and start practicing for the next round of tryouts. You may have to supply that kick in the pants as well.
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Remind him what every sportsman should know. Sometimes you win, and sometimes you learn. Take some positive lessons away from the experience, even if they're learned the hard way and tough pills to swallow. And come back wiser and stronger. There'll be more trials, more training, more matches. More chances. You're not a loser if you get beaten...you're only a loser if you quit. Hang in there.
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