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Plz help me figure this out! Crucial!
My friends already get that I am, but I just can't seem to tell them I'm bisexual. And don't even get me started in my family! I believe they're extremely homophobic. How can I tell anyone that I'm bi when I can't even seem to tell myself that?
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First of all you do not have to tell anyone anything about your sexuality; it is none of their business. This includes your parents.
Now I'm going to have to guess at your age since you did not include it. I'm guessing you are a teenager somewhere in the early stages of puberty. If I'm correct do not be so fast to pin a label on yourself. I don't understand why everyone today is in such a hurry to label things unnecessarily.
Teenagers, both boys and girls, going through puberty, the greater majority of them will experiment sexually with in their same sex. This does not make them bisexual, gay or lesbians. What it does is make them perfectly normal.
When learning about yourself, your body, your sexuality it is a lot safer to do so with someone of the same sex than it is with someone of the opposite sex. Parents are not concerned when two teenagers of the same sex are in a room together with the door closed. Maybe they should be but since no one can get pregnant the don't.
If I am correct and you have had some type of sexual intimacy with a girl but still like guys. That you are a young teenager and still in the throes of puberty and have yet to experience sex with a boy. Don't stick a label on yourself for I don't think you are truly, at this time, bisexual.
I knew girls in college that spent a great deal of time having sex with other girls. Why? First: It was safer as you can't get pregnant this way. Second: It relieved the Sexual tension we all get without having to go through the rituals of dating. Usually they had sex with a roommate. Third: The male population was far less than the female population so it was easier to find a girls to have sex with. When these girls left college few if any continued there bisexual or lesbian lifestyle.
Moral of all this is: IF as I believe you are young and in the middle of puberty. Relax, give yourself time to experiment with your sexuality. Finish puberty, then is you still feel you swing both way, then label yourself.
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What do you mean by your friends already get that you are? That you are what, bisexual? And if you feel that it's unsafe for you to tell your family- or anyone for that matter- about your sexuality, then do not feel like you have to, it doesn't make you weak or coward to keep it to yourself, it makes you smart for staying safe. As for your friends, figure out their views on the topic before coming out. But before you tell anybody, except maybe a couple select friends if you feel you need somebody to talk to about it, make sure that you know for certain what you are. If you come out now as bisexual but later realize that you're actually full gay, or that you made a mistake and are actually straight, or maybe pansexual or another orientation, then it's confusing for other people when you correct them, and sometimes hard to come out again with your newly discovered sexuality. So tl;dr: know yourself before letting others know, and dont feel like you have to come out if you feel its unsafe to come out, and find out how your friends might react to the subject before telling them. You aren't abnormal or anything, this is the way you were born. Bisexuality is a real orientation, don't let anybody try to convince you otherwise. Good luck!
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