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Am in love with my college SU president
Hi, I am 17 years old and I am the youngest person in ny university. I am absolutely in love with the SU president in my university. We talk sometimes and we have also kissed a couple of time on a college night out but it acts like he doesn't even notice me, he is always cold to me when people are around ue but once we are alone together he opens up to me and just be an absolute sweetheart. I do catch him staring at me sometimes and we also flirt alot when we are left alone. The problem is I don't know if he likes me, he is a completely shy guy but I just think he feels like I won't be able to fit into his life maybe because of my age or even my race.i don't know what to do anymore it's been 9 months and there have been no improvement at all.
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"I am absolutely in love with the SU president in my university"
Girl, ask yourself one simple question: how many other girls just like you are "in love" with the SU president?
"he is a completely shy guy"
HAHAHAHA! Seriously? The Student Union *president* is shy? The guy who got *elected* by the students at your university? Shy?
This is a fantasy happening all in your head, and no where else. There is zero chance that the SU president is "shy". He's a politician, and there is no such thing as a shy politician.
Do yourself a favour, and google "hypergamy". You can fritter away your youth bouncing like a ping-pong ball between high ranking guys who swap their harems like trading cards, or you can "settle" and maybe find a little happiness.
PS: also google "Monica Lewinsky".
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Giddy and I can only guess at this guys character, and whether he even knows you're 17. You may feel older and more mature than many 18 yr olds or older. But the law is such that it doesn't make allowances for whether you're both in college together or not, someone older than you having any intimate sexual contact with you can be prosecuted for statutory rape. Depending on the state you live in, some states don't even allow an older person to even kiss someone younger than 18.
I have another idea. If he's so okay being with you alone but changes in the company of other college students, it's because he doesnt want them to see him having any interest in you, not even a friendship as classmates. There could be a couple different reasons, If he assumes you're 18 and hasn't asked you, then he may be embarrassed to be seen with someone so much younger than him, that's if he's an older classman. Someone who is more concerned about how it looks IF he assumed you were 18 or even if you really were and he knew...the same applies...he does not really care about you as a person and getting to know you. Young men who aren't attracted to you are not going to give you any time. The fact that he does give you enough of his time to talk and kiss means he is interested. But not interested enough to appear to want to get to know you for your personality. He just wants the sex. There is no other logical reason for him to be kissing you. Shy guys don't end up kissing girls so easily. And shy guys don't end up in such a prominent role like SU president of the Univ.
The staring at you he's do is cus he's horny, he wants to take care of that and he see's you as any easy conquest due to the fact that you have less experience with guys than the older girls do who've already been burnt once or twice.
I won't tell you what to do...just explained what i see the situation to be.
You said: i don't know what to do anymore. That is a statement. I can understand not knowing what to do when faced with a situation like this for the first time dear. However I will refrain from giving my opinion as to what you might do because you did not actually say, "What should I do about this?"
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NO.NO.NO. You've got this all wrong. He does not like you, he wants to get in your pants(after which he will not know you and tell anyone listening to your story that you are a liar.) This man is not only taking advantage of you but in most states, since you are only 17, this is also a crime. You can be absolutely CERTAIN this is not the first time he has done this and if you don't turn him in it won't be his last. You need to go to the campus counselor immediately and you also need to report this. I know you think you like him and some great love affair is going to take place but NO. This guy is pure scum. If you really want to know the truth about him then report him and see how quick he calls you a liar! I am guessing dozens of other girls will step forward as soon as it becomes public. Please don't let this jerk do this anymore. I am guessing many young girls have fallen in love with him and had their lives destroyed. There might have even been abortions or suicides for all you know. You are in a position to stop this NOW before anyone else gets hurt. Please do it.
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