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how do i turn him down easy?
ok so basically be and this guy named bob (not is real name) I knew from school have been talking on facebook like friends and I didn't think much of it and then my friends told me someone liked me but they said they wouldn't tell me so I secretly went on m y friends facebook to see any messages between her and any guys I knew and bob was talking about this girl it didn't say a name so I didn't wanna assume anything but I was still thinking about it and today at lunch my friends kept asking if I liked anyone and I said no one and they said I should like someone and I said well how am I supposed to know if you guys wont tell me and then my friend Sally (not her really name) really stupidly said its someone who talks to you everyday and that gave it away that it was bob and a couple of months ago he asked out a girl at a dance and brought her flowers and stuff and she danced with him but ended up turning him down and he was so sad and now im pretty sure hes gunna ask me out but I don't wanna hurt him cause hes like my closest guy friend and I don't want our friendship to end but I don't like him in that way Dx
so please can you give me tips on how to tell him I don't like him and please don't tell me to just tell him straight out because im that good with words and it just wont work
im 13 female
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If he asks you out tell him how much his friendship means to you . Tell him that he is such a special friend to you that you could never think of him in any other way. He might be a little bummed at first but you will still have your friend!
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There is no other way to tell him than straight out. Why would you want to tell him some other way? That would be harsh if you did it any other way. Since he's your friend, he deserves it to be straightforward.
You need to be honest. Don't beat around the bush, don't lie, just say that you only like him as a friend.
No matter what you say, he'll be sad, but the best way is to be honest and straightforward. He'll appreciate that more than anything else.
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Straight out really is the best way, no guesswork or misunderstandings. Right now, there is no guarantee that he will ask you out so this is jumping the gun. You know he is interested, but at 13 or so, he is as inexperiencing in dating and relationships as you and your friends. He's probably waiting for a friend of his who hears from a friend of yours that you 'like' him before he will make a move. If you say no such thing, I doubt he'll ask you.
But if he somehow gets up the guts to ask you, and you don't want to tell him you are not interested in him in that way, just realize no matter what you say or do, even if you say nothing, it will still hurt his feelings. The dating realm is a place of disappoints and heartbreaks on one end and on the total other end, one of delight and first love. You can't not totally avoid having it happen to you or to anyone else. If you do not wish to say anything at all to him on the subject or answering an invite, then when he asks, change the subject to talk about what you want, pretending you didn't hear. At some point it will become obvious that there's nothing wrong with your hearing and you are just evading answering his question.
If you feel you can talk to him, which I feel a person owes someone they call a friend, then you say Bob,I don't know if you're asking me out as a friend or because you want to date me like a girlfriend, so I need to know before I answer, because I don't want you to think that because I accept an invite to go bike riding that it means we're dating like a couple. I just don't feel that way about you.
Hope this helps.
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