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lesbian but 2 boys are crushing on me
It's sort of hard to explain, so I can't imagine myself in a trillion years dating a boy. Ew! But dating a girl sounds much better to me. Yet this one boy teases me every chance he gets, which obviously means he likes me, I'm not a retard. Another boy won't leave me alone and keeps stalking me. I really don't wanna admit it, I'm not ready, but this is really uncomfortable for me, and I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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My goodness, even if you liked boys, they shouldn't be stalking you! Tell them to back off, it's creepy! You don't have to explain yourself to anyone at this point so don't worry about that part of it. Just let these boys know you are not impressed with their tactics and they will probably move on to someone else!
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As a fellow lesbian, I know your problem. I had a guy actually ask me out on a date, fully knowing I'm into girls....but that's a whole other story.
For me I hate having to come out to every guy that take interest in me because it's tedious,you get asked all sorts of questions,sometimes they don't take that as an answer etc. Instead maybe just say you're not interested in them. That way you don't have to come out to them. If they already know you're into girls, tell em to bug off.
I think you may not be totally sure of your sexuality. To a lot of girls dating a girl sounds better but they don't actually pursue a relationship with one. Sexuality is very fluid so don't be so quick to label yourself yet. I have gone through many stages of being unsure and everything so for now I remain no label, but 99.9% sure I'm a lesbian. Best of luck! (If you wanna chat more in depth, inbox me)
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If you're not comfortable with telling them you're sexual orientation then you don't have to. If anything comes up, just tell them you don't see them like that.
If one of the guys is actually stalking you, then you might want to talk to a teacher or counselor or an adult who can help you with that.
But as for now, if they tell you they like you or want to date you, just tell them you just see them as friends or you just aren't interested.
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I think the best way for you to handle this it to let them know you're not available(however which way you want). Even then some people won't stop. You guys sound young, so it may be hard for them to take a no, and if they don't stop there then you absolutely need to talk to an adult about it at your school or wherever this is happening. It can become harassment. Sometimes you'll find that talking to them about it will help the situation.
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If you're not ready to date yet, would you feel different if it was a girl crushing on you? Do you think it's obvious on the outside to fellow students what you feel your sexual orientation is on the inside? There's a good chance that it is not.
I can't say whether the one is officially stalking or whether its simply one of the normal ways a guy shows interest in a girl, especially as teens. If neither of them has got to the point of asking you out, there's no need to do anything. If you warn them ahead of time by revealing you're a les and won't be dating guys and one of them was only interested in you as a friend, not a girlfriend, you might be embarrassed.
Kids your age are well aware of the wide range of sexual preferances. I don't think it would be a big deal to anyone to have you explain this. A guy might be disappointed but should to respect your choice and wishes to no longer be pursued.
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