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I'm 14 and he is 16, is this bad?
So, me and my boyfriend get along really well, we've had our ups and downs but we've stayed together. I'm 14 and he is 16, is this bad? I've got a feeling it is, he's giving me hints that he wants sex with me and I know this from another question I've asked on here, I'm not going to have sex with him until I'm ready and it is legal but I'm just not sure if it's right...
I probably sound crazy.
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Well yeah you should wait obviously because of legal but if you are questioning whether thou should or not you are not ready.Because when you are ready you know and you will get there eventually. And when you do there will be no doubts. I am in college and my friend is still in love with her boyfriend but still hasn't had sex yet and they have been together since eighth grade. They say that they are in love but they have plenty of time for that. But when you do remember be safe.
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Can't see any reson why a girl of fourteen shouldn't date a guy of sixteen. Girls do mature more quickly as a rule, and a 16 girl will be far less likely to find a 14 guy very desirable in most cases. You're both at the age where sex is going to be prominent in your minds. You seem to have decided to wait until YOU feel ready...very sound idea. He probably WILL be more eager and have less reservations about it. Usually the way. Sure, some will say all guys are 'only after one thing' and sometimes they're right. If he gets too pushy, too often, and then moody and difficult when you say 'Not yet' you're one of the 'sometimes they're right' so dump him and don't look back. It's your body, not his amusement park. And try to ignore the 'peer-group' pressure to join the "I'm having sex" club as you might call it. Be individual. It's your choice who you have sex with, why and when...and quite frankly none of their business really, is it? Will giving in and having sex keep a boyfriend, win his respect and guarantee a lasting relationship? Trust me...the answer's NO!!
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So if I understand you correctly you want to know what the law in your particular state is regarding a guy at 16, wanting sex with a 14 yr old girl. I don't think your age is a bad deal, as long as you're both in high school, I don't see the problem with dating someone in highschool from another grade level.
Many teen boys will try to pressure a girl for sex. But there are also a few who wont and it doesnt matter what their age in school.
If you do a web search online for age of consent, you will be able to find sites that show by the state. If not in the U.S. you can do a search for your country. Heres one of the sites for US.
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You don't sound crazy, but he sounds way to old for you. Most guys his age only think about sex. You need to tell him how you feel and that you're not ready to have sex yet. If he doesn't listen then you need to just tell him NO and shut him down every time he brings up the subject.
If he starts pressuring you to have sex, then that's when you need to cut him loose. There are plenty of other men out there who will respect you and treat you like a lady. But if this guy really likes you(or even LOVES you), then he'll respect your wishes.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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